How do i take control of my anger? I get angry quickly and am like a wild bull set lose when angry.?
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Get a dream, that's how. Redirect your anger into something positive. Let me share something if anyone thinks they won when getting angry at someone, because the damage you do to yourself in big time:
One scientists took the DNA from someone angry and put it in a rat. That rat died fast. That's what's anger doing to you. Killing you slowly and that's what I figured out with myself. So how did I do it?
I read books. I read books on self development because the only reason someone gets angry over someone's comment or mimicking is because they lack knowledge, ignorance, and not real strength inside. Sure, one can be big and strong externally but a man, a real man shows it from not losing his temper.
Some simple steps you can try. If something angers you, first do this:
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut."
Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy. I'm stronger than this." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. (this works big time. See something that gets you relaxed, Anything i.e. the ocean, or island, whatever image that reminds you and gets you relaxed.)
When you are at home, read books on self development. Books on Atttitude, Positive Mental Attitude, Habits, the principles of success by Napolean Hill. Grow from inside instead of just outside and trust me, what the big difference it has on you if you give it time.
You get angry because you can't solve a problem, shut someone else up. But really, its that voice inside one needs to shut up, that voice that says, "he made funny of me?! I'm going to deck him one! I'll kill him!"
We need to take responsibility for our actions and not blame it on our anger. We need to change, we need to understand that we need knowledge, to be able to solve problems. The solving of something getting you angry is solved by moving on, by knowing your better, stronger and YOU GOT A DREAM and your PURSUING IT and you don't have time for losers. It ain't a big deal. Let them do whatever.
Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.
Listen, too, to what is underlying the anger. For instance, you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other" wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your activities, don't retaliate by painting your partner as a jailer, a warden, or an albatross around your neck.
It's natural to get defensive when you're criticized, but don't fight back. Instead, listen to what's underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don't let your anger—or a partner's—let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.
Changing Your Environment:-
Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.
Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother who has a standing rule that when she comes home from work, for the first 15 minutes "nobody talks to Mom unless the house is on fire." After this brief quiet time, she feels better prepared to handle demands from her kids without blowing up at them.
Finally, mate, everyone is human. No one is perfect, even grown ups. You and I, as men, have a responsibility to society, and even if someone does something stupid, we got to rise above. Why?
Because when we hit someone, he could be someones father, someone's son, someone's friend, someone's loved one. Each action effects not just one person but through the line, it effects a whole number of people we don't even know.
You at least, want to change and this takes pure guts. That is character for definite. You took the first step. And a thousand miles is started with the first step. You've took that first step, finish the journey now and get it sorted.
And use your anger to channel in helping yourself to make your dreams happen or someone else's dream happen.
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go see a psychiatrist, you need xanax or something
read Dianetics:The modern Science of Mental Health I hope this will help you.
Anger, like all emotion are not easy to control but it can be, if you really set your mind out to try. I know, cos I am just like that.
Firstly, you must decide to NOT get into RAGE. Big difference between Anger and RAGE.
Secondly, go about, your daily routine and be aware of your own commitment. Its ok to be angry, and when you do, REMEMBER to not allow yourself to get into RAGE stage.
Calm yourself down as soon as you can.
When you are have a quiet time, reflect upon what really trigger your rage, and anger, and finally, try to resolve that feeling.
Hope it help.
Try and get into some anger management classes, they done wonders for my mate who had the same problem man, and he's been good for 6 years now, he has done a lot of time before this and wishes he got help before hand, don't be embarrassed about it , you need to be a big man to admit when you need help and even bigger to seek it. Good luck buddy you are half way there by recognising you need help-now go get it and you will respect yourself and others when then respect you too-All the best !!
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