Why am I terrified? Please someone answer me!?

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I have been separated from my abusive husband for over a year. When I came to work this morning, his vehicle was parked at the building where I work and I saw him walking up to the building. I called up to the front desk and asked if he was still here, and the gal that answered said that he was here for training (which means that he will be here all day. I work in a building with approx. 100 other people, I know that he wouldn’t try anything, but yet having him in the building is just terrifying me. I do think that I have PSTD. There was only one instance of physical abuse, three years ago, but just seeing him has triggered so much anxiety about the emotional abuse that I can’t concentrate on work. The funny thing is that I can see him every other weekend in front of the sheriff’s office (in front of a video camera) alone. But I’m scared now.

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the more you share your feelings about this with your close friends the better you will feel. they can reassure you and if he really isn't a danger any more that will be proven through time.
maybe you should start doing some things to gain strength and confidence like martial arts? just a thought.sometimes that leads to great steps in personal development, you could even tell the instructor why you are taking the class and they would be more understanding and work closely with you to stay in your comfort zone. you'll be okay, especially with all those people around. sounds like something that you can get over. talk to a professional about it, don't rush to medicate. talking about is the first step. you'll come out of it with time..3 years isn't really that long when you think about it.

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I suggest counseling.

Of course you are scared. Who wouldn't be? Its very traumatizing to be abused. You should really see a therapist to help you work through the mental anguish that this has caused. Get a restraining order if you feel threatened.

Your feelings are natural. But it might help to talk them out with a therapist that can help you sort through them.

In the mean time, can you talk to someone at your job about this? Is he going to be working where you work now?

Do you have a restraining order against him? If you do, you can have him removed from the property by the police. I would get a full divorce, too, if I were you. You are obviously not going to ever go back to him if you are this scared (and you have a right to be). I would also seek help from a psyciatrist that specializes in Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. Chances are, he is working there just to be near to you . either to be mean and vindictive, or because he cannot bear being without you. Either way, his behavior is not normal. I would get a restraining order if you do not already have one. Tell your friends and co-workers how you feel. They will look out for you. Also alert security and the front desk to your problem. Remember, you are not alone. I think it is okay to feel this way. It is a normal human emotion for people to experience anxiety or nervousness when faced with a problem or making an important decision. Anxiety disorders and panic disorders, however, are different. They can cause such distress that it interferes with a person's ability to lead a normal life.

Anxiety disorders cannot be prevented; however, there are some things you can do to control or lessen symptoms:

* Stop or reduce your consumption of products that contain caffeine, such as coffee, tea, cola, and chocolate.
* Ask your doctor or pharmacist before taking any over-the-counter medicines or herbal remedies. Many contain chemicals that can increase anxiety symptoms.
* Seek counseling and support after a traumatic or disturbing experience.
* Exercise daily and eat a healthy, balanced diet.

Ohh honey <3 Get some help. Your feelings are a result of your mind relating your husband to bad memories. Why don't you get a restraining order ? That would keep him away. Nevertheless, if you work with a lot of people, some of them must be friends of yours. Try talking to them instead of going to a net group. We may have good intentions, but this is just virtual contact. It would be best for you some personnal contact.
Good luck.

I can relate to your situation 100%. You have to value what you have become today, and be happy about it. Every morning when I wake up after thanking God for another beautiful day I say to myself, I'M THE MOST HAPPIEST WOMAN IN THE WHOLE WORLD! And that have help me not to be afraid of anyone, because I don't let anyone to change the fact that I'm the happiest woman. If I "sense" somebody is going to disturb that, I stop them right there, by repeating to he/she & myself I'M THE MOST HAPPIEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD & I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR TROUBLES OR PROBLEMS, I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR YOU OR FEAR, I'M TOO HAPPY TODAY FOR THAT. Because all the pain that this person cause me, I don't let that to repeat. Lady, there's only 1 thing you have to be afraid of, and it's not that man! He's just a worm with 2 legs. Don't u know by now men that hurt women in any kind of way is because they are afraid of them. Just laugh right there in his face.Make sure you always have a smile on your face when he sees you, and a strong face. I'm not talking a flirty smile,or he will think something else. Take care of yourself, and remember, you are now the 2nd most happiest woman in the world ;)

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