he's using me for sex but I kind of like it...?

Question:

Ok, it's obvious this guy is using me for sex. He calls me, invites me over, we get to it, I leave his apt. feeling a little weird and rejected. I keep resolving that I won't do it anymore but he's so hot, everytime he calls my body literally heats up, and I feel like I can't control myself. I don't call him, so as not to turn him off with expectations of a relationship. I don't want to jeapordize our rendevous! I know this is dynamic is unhealthy and humiliating, yet I just bought some amazing lingere to wear for him. What is wrong with me? Maybe I'm some sort of validation/ rejection junkie.

Answers:
It could be yer compensating the conscious awareness that you are not engaging in a healthy relationship by justifying the pleasures of the encounter. It's been done before. Maybe you find the recognition appeasing to your state of mind. Some people honestly have a fetish, and nothing is wrong with them mentally, it's just how they think and what turns them on. The detachment from human emotion becomes a turn-on, it it's rather taboo, but unless he's screwing around everywhere in a similar fashion, it does not indicate an illness or mean anything is wrong.

Perhaps you want the sex and don't care for the love.

This is not a healthy relationship

it's called a friend with benefits.. lots of people have done this in their life (lord knows i have) .. but in the end they almost always crash and burn.. someone will get attached and get their feelings hurt better than 90% of the time... so just be careful and try to find a healthy relationship.

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