I have social anxiety and sometimes get nervous with ppl. What can I do to calm down my nerves?

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The "Krazies" I know drink alot which solves the problem temporarily.

But. You may want to realise what thoughts are coming before this anxiety, and keep note. Then you can work on a goal of avoiding those thoughts & come to grips.

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Try to identify when it is that you get really nervous and avoid those situations, or the things that trigger it.

Go see a medical doctor who is specialize in mental health. He/She can probably give you medication to help lesson the anxiety and nervousness.

Count to ten. Focus on one thing and try not to let your mind drift. It works for me most of the time.

play games / watch movies go walking in the park or chat in one if the YAHOO chat rooms
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"Visualization," "imaging," or "cognitive behavioral rehearsal" is the process of creating detailed mental pictures of behaviors you wish to assume. It can be a useful supplement to your other efforts at overcoming shyness. In effect, it is a way of practicing in your mind behaviors that you wish to acquire in real life.

And research shows that visualization can really help. Researchers at Louisiana State University found that people could actually increase the amount of weight they could lift by visualizing themselves doing so.

Daydreaming is a form of visualization. The difference between visualization and daydreaming, however, is that there are gaps in daydreams, and we picture some hypothetical event that will probably never take place. In the visualization process, by contrast, we picture something that is more likely to happen and imagine the step-by-step process by which we will handle it.

You need to practice visualization when you know you can relax without fear of interruption. Try to choose a time when nobody else is home, or, if this is not possible, go to a room by yourself and hang a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door. (It is okay to tell people what you are doing.)

Before you begin your visualization session, you should relax for a few minutes. You need no special regimen. If you are familiar with yoga, meditation, or another relaxation discipline you may practice it briefly before beginning visualization. Otherwise, kicking off your shoes, putting your feet up, and going into a quiet mood will be fine.

It is important, however, to be relaxed when visualizing because you want to subconsciously associate a feeling of relaxation with the social situations that you are about to mentally rehearse. When you actually enter into a situation you visualized, you want to be able to recall that relaxed state vividly.

When you feel you are sufficiently relaxed you are ready to start the visualization process.

1: Close your eyes and picture the scene that causes you shyness as vividly and accurately as possible. Picture the people who are involved in the scene. What do they say? How do you respond?

2: If you are visualizing something that happened in the past, picture the scene as it actually happened as vividly as possible. What is it that was difficult about this situation?

3: What did the other person (or people) say? What did you say? What do you feel was inadequate about your performance?

4: Now visualize the exact same scene again. Picture what the other person said to you. But this time, picture yourself responding as you wish you had responded. Or, if you initiated the interaction, picture yourself doing so as you wish you had, effectively, self-confidently. If you have trouble knowing what this would be, think of an outgoing person you admire and picture how he or she would handle the situation. Imagine yourself behaving the same way.

5: Now picture how you think the other person might have responded to you had you acted the way you wished. Then visualize your next move or statement, his or her response, and so on, until you think the interaction is completed.

6: If you are visualizing something that will happen in the future, you must make a number of suppositions. Who do you expect to be talking to? Is it likely to be a man or a woman? Have you met this person before? What is the setting? What do you wish to accomplish with the interaction? How should you approach this person? What do you think you should say? What do you expect the other person to say? How will you respond? Visualize this scene repeatedly until you think you have worked out all the details and have determined what your best approach will be and how you will respond to various possible behaviors on the part of the other person. Picture yourself being relaxed, friendly, confident.

The important thing to remember when visualizing is not simply to think "I must be more outgoing," but to actually see yourself being more outgoing. See every step of your desired behavior as if it were projected on a movie screen. Just as you mentally "see" various scenarios acted out when you daydream, so must you "see" them when you visualize. As with any other skill, your ability to visualize will improve with practice.

A few other tips: First, be realistic about what you're visualizing. Don't see yourself as being the "life of the party" right away. Instead, look at the graduated desensitization list that you made up in the previous section, start visualizing the first thing that causes you shyness, and work your way up from there.

20-30 minutes a day is a good amount of time to devote to visualization.

u may try relaxation techniques(deep breathing) too.hope it will help.

no medication please. Just remind yourself that everyone gets nervous from time to time, and find nice people to hang out with.

I'm going to contradict myself about the medication. I find a little alcohol helps to calm the nerves, and I personally feel this is less hazardous than presciption medicine.

I have the same problem.I tend to be very quiet and withdrawn around groups of people.When i realize that I'm withdrawing,i make an effort to join in the conversation.It's easier if you concentrate on just a few people in the group.

I have the same problem. I just try deep breathing when i start to get nervous, then i tell myself "you are okay" over and over. And i focus on other people or other things instead of myself. Also, try taking to people, i know it's hard, but just try to talk to like one person at a time. I would also suggest seeking help from a professional, such as a psychiatrist or counselor, i saw a counselor and it helped a lot.

I also have social anxiety so I can empathize with you. To be honest with you, I just avoid social situations now. I only go to parties that I must go to because they are my close friends.

Ask yourself why you are nervous? I think you will probably have the same answer as me - low self esteem - you think people don't like you or don't think well of you or you feel that you are not as good as everyone else, you are not cool, hip, enough.

You are just as good as everyone else, maybe you are even better. Who can judge?

Take small steps. For example, you could go to a party and not stay the whole evening - just go for a short time - as long as you can take it - when you get nervous, just leave and congratulate yourself for having taking that hard step.

Again at the party - maybe you see a person who is also alone, you could go over and talk to that person for a short time. Maybe there is a table with food and drinks, you can go over there, be busy with your food and/or drink and sometimes, naturally people start talking to you.

The main thing is to try in small ways to socialize, and when you are successful in these small ways, perhaps you will feel better and will be able to do more.

Best of luck to you and believe me, you have my greatest sympathy - I know how frightening these social situations are.

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