How to deal with a bi-polar mom?

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My mom has bipolar and right now she is still manipulative enough to portray "normal" behavior, although she has lost her job and cut off contact with anyone except her children. She is still taking care of herself, eating, paying bills, general hygiene, but dealing with the depressive side of her is slowing depressing me. I recently blew up at her and part of it was plain old mother daughter issues but the other part was your crazy azz is killing me issues. Right now its a waiting game before the law can step in but what do I do until then? Also between my other sibling I am the only one who "monitors" my mother for health and to reach that point when the law can step in, my other sibling does not believe she is sick, and my mother lives in a different state then me.

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Being a severe bipolar myself - It one of the most interesting, but one of most terrible disease to live with!
Unless people are considerate enough to research it they will never understand it!
Even understanding SOME of it - It cannot be controlled. Medication helps with SOME stability, but being bipolar the medication being immuned very quickly.
She is doing great by taking care of herself, eating right, hygiene, etc.
With bipolar it is a mood that can come and go throughout the Moment, Day, or situation!
Please don't take too much upon yourself as it is a draining condition - especially from the person with it!
But I must Tell You Thank you for being understanding. It's very rare that people are there for ones like this! It is so trying! People cannot handle it - They want to deny it exists.
My grown children went through heck when I raised them (I didn't have a diagnosis's then)
Now, they also live in other states, when we have contact they only want to, can only handle that I'M FINE, I'M DOING WELL - we don't discuss who I really am or what I'm going through!
When I am out of sorts, I say I don't feel well! Some know what I'm talking about, most don't care = I don't care that they care or not!
I've learned to accept this is who I am, I do my best to maintain!
If you'd like to keep in contact please email me!
Again, thank you for being someone who's taking the time to understand the disease!

Other Answers:
doctor and medication

send her to a looney bin Give her a swift kick in the ovaries.

explain just how serious the matter is to your siblings. tell them that she took care of you all for how many years and its time for them to help take care of her :)

Contact NAMI for help.. They can help her and most definitely help you.

I believe NAMI stands for National Association for Mental Illness, I may b a little off on the exact verbiage.

Good Luck and remain strong.

Sorry to hear of your problems. My brother is bi-polar (or so we think -- he refuses any kind of treatment), has been unemployed for 6 years and has been living with my parents for the last 4, so I feel your pain. The only thing I can suggest is to try to get her professional help. Send some information on bi-polar disorder to your siblings and perhaps they will change their mind and rally around you -- you shouldn't be taking on your mother by yourself. This should be a family-wide effort to help her. awwww. :(

She isn't acting like that to hurt you. Depression isn't something she can control. She can be happy one minute then all of a sudden become sad and cry for no apparant reason.She feels like nobody cares and that life isn't worth liviing. If you want to help her be a good shoulder for her to lean on. If you call her crazy or put her down for it that just makes it worse.

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