I think my boyfriend may have Obsessive compulsive disprder?
Question:
He has a phobia of tissues and if there is one on our table in restaurant he will get someone to take it away. Also at home.
I have seen him lock our door and then unlock and lock it again is if counting the times he does it. He has to touch things a certain amount of time and seems to get annoyed with himself when doing it.
Making sure our fridge door is shut all the time by pushing it.
I have also discovered soap in a case in a jacket pocket and packets of wipes.
It seems he is on edge all the time and looking round the room all the time.
There are lots of other things. When I mention it he just dismisses it as nothing.
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Wow. I'm not an expert, but it does mimic exactly what I've seen on television regarding OCD. From what I understand for some that live with OCD, things "have to be just right". The unlocking and re-locking of the door seems to be just that. If I just witnessed the soap, packet of wipes and the request to remove someone else's Kleenex, I would have thought he is simply weary of germs - just like me. However, the other clues you give seem to add up to something bigger. I'd see a specialist, when he's ready to confront/admit his possible OCD. Know that many people and their spouses live just fine with OCD. Depending on its severity, it may just take more time and patience to get things done. My best of wishes to you in identifying/dealing with this concern.
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umm tell him to fo to the doctor
Well,it sounds like he has a form of it. have him talk to someone about it.
he is a germophobe
Sounds like it could be OCD. Urge him to see a doctor.
Get him to take Fish oil pills with Omega 3
Slap him crazy woman!
It sounds like he might but, you know the drill the only one who can tell you is a dr. good luck!
Have you seen the TV show Monk?
Seriously, try and convince him to see a doctor. It sounds like OCD and it will probably get worse without treatment. Stress can bring on these symptoms to the point where you are now noticing them. If he doesn't get help, it will drive you crazy, I'm sure of that.
Uh-oh, you're in trouble. Try to talk to him about it and insist that you should dicuss what's going on.. it sounds so serious. You gotta make him realize he's getting odd. But at the same time, try not to offend him as much as possible, so do it as casually as you can. And DON'T BRING UP SHRINKS YET, he'll lose confidence in you. Try to ask about his work, how's his business going. Maybe he's doing those OC things for "goodluck" cuz business for him is doing bad these days.
Sounds like he has a case of OCD. However, you can live with this. He also sounds as though he may be afraid of germs (the soap in the pocket). Washing too much can do as much damage as washing too little. He may need to see a psychatrist. Since he is managing companies, he may have a lot of stress on him. Just be there for him. It could be a lot worse (beating you, cheating on you, etc).
It sounds like he may be obsessive compulsive from your description. There is nothing wrong with him though, just his way of coping with certain things. Some medicines help, but I always thought they made me more jittery and anxious. Just try to be understanding and help out sometimes. He will love you all the more for it.
My brother has OCD and I can tell you for sure your boyfriend does, too. It usually starts appearing in later teens and early adulthood.
The brain gets 'locked' like a skipping cd and is stuck on a motion. My brother checks his alarm clock or combs his hair for hours. They are also really nit-picky about certain things, in terms of germs and order. Everything has to be tidy, neat, and clean.
Humans are creatures of habit and cautiousness. Maybe he is cautious of germs and wants to keep clean. I too will lock a few times, just so it sinks in that I am sure the door is locked.
As long as he can still function as a normal person, an occasional locking 2-3 more times wont hurt him.
It doesn't really seem to be doinging anything harmfull just annoying!
But i would take him to see about it! maybe there is something he can do!
First, (tap, tap, tap) let me welcome your boyfriend to the OCD club!, but don't shake my hand! Second, he does need help! It only gets worse without consultation. If he's developing new habits, he's under new stressors and actually closer to breaking down. Good luck!
It's highly likely that he is OCD and that he is embarrassed by it. He may not want to "fix" these behaviors so going to the doctor may not be an option.
If you love him, you might have to accept that these tics come with being with him. Or there's drugs for it, but that's his decision.
He seems to have a lot of the symptons... germaphobia, counting, unexplained rituals, etc... Take him to an OCD specialist or something.
He sonds like hes on drugs. Probably heroine, or some form of it. You should check to see if thats really soap? Throw it away, and get rid of anything that could be a drug... See how he reacts to that. or its OCD lol whatever it is it sounds bad.
Yes he does. Watched a program on TV several months ago about that. There is help though. Speak with your doctor and get a good referral to a specialist that treats that disorder is my suggestion.
Leave everything a mess and see what he does. He'll soon get annoyed by his actions and stop. Open the Refridgerator Door, keep the regular door open. Leave a tissue or towel on the table on purpose.
He is the new and improved MR MONK!
good god, it seems that you're living with a psycho, get out of there before it's too late. everyone has a little phobia, but he has way too many... you never know what it might happen. just leave...
Yeah, I would definitely have him see somebody. I know these things don't seem like big deals, but it can probably get pretty irritating for the both of you. Like you said, it seems he may get irritated at himself, but at the same time he can't help it. Unfortunately, I think the only type of treatment is professional.
It does sound worrisome. I do think it's something that should be evaluated by a professional.
Now how to get him to do that, I don't know. Start by consulting a professional yourself. They may be able to help you get him in to be checked out.
Yes I would say he has OCD. I lived with a man that was diagnosed with the disease. It was miserable...for both of us. Repetion, counting, all things to do with numbers drove me nuts! Seek help for the both of you and good luck!
That is pretty much the textbook symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.
Wiki:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive-compulsive_disorder
OCD UK:
http://www.ocduk.org/
It does sound like OCD, but if he's not admitting to it you're going to have trouble getting him to a doctor. it might not be a bad idea to seek out professional advice from a therapist or some such on how to deal with it.
tape him? heh...show him what he does
i suggest he sees someone about this, it isnt normal and obviously has never happened before, right? did you notice a certain event that happened beforehand? trama may hav triggered it, counceling can help.
he sounds a lot like Adrean Monk on the uSA show MONK (dunno if you have seen it or not)....but he should seek help. you you go talk to a psychiatrist about it, see what thier opinion is about it, how you oculd get him to go so youwould sotrt of be there on his behalf...ya know?
I hope all works out well, hopefully, it's a phase, if not, I'm more than certain there are meds to calm his nerves.
BTW, yes it sounds exactly like OCD
He may have been watching too much Monk.
Seriously, it sounds very possible. Some of his behaviours are like mine but I just have anxiety. Does he seem anxious as well? If he does, perhaps you can bring his attention to that rather than focus on the OCD behaviours, so that he will see a doctor.
My old bf came to me years later to apologize for behaviour when young. He was only happy after diagnosed and able to put a name to what he was feeling. Good luck.
I think he also has a form of OCD. You might want to ask what his childhood was like, or if he has relatives with this OCD tendacies.
I'm not an expert but it sounds like an obsessive personality according to John Hopkins University web-page.
Not all obsessiveness is bad as long as it doesn't interfere with your job or relationships; sometimes it is just quirky.
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