How do i deal with this?

Question:

my 12 year old son has aspergers syndrome and is starting high school next year. i am dreading it! he isn't too keen about school and isn't really looking forward to starting high school. he was teased by kids at primary, but i managed to deal with that very quickly. i have no idea how i will deal with it when he goes to high school. some kids are really mean and thoughtless, it's the teasing and bullying that bothers me most. i am really worried about what may happen. what bothers me most is that i will end up going to the school and taking matters into my own hands if i feel he isn't getting the protection he needs. if anyone hurt my son, i dread to think of what would happen!

Answers:
High school can be a difficult time for anyone, but even more so for someone that has a disability as your son does. There is a kid at my high school who also has aspergers syndrome and he also gets his fair amount of teasing - there is really nothing YOU can do to stop this in school, by going to the school and trying to protect him you may just be giving bullies another reason to pick on your child. As long as your son realizes how great he is and he has a very welcoming and comfortable home life he should be fine. perhaps you should sit him down and have a good conversation about high school and how hard it will be, but also about how rewarding it can be. - he will most probably find a group of people that he can hang around with and feel comfortable around, i don't think you have as much to worry about as you think. although you may feel happier to consider home-school. and definitely change your question to include the word 'aspergers' so people with a knowledge about it can help. best of luck to you both :)

Re-ask this question with the word "aspergers" in the title so it may attract people who have knowledge about such things.

Whatever happens, it's his own destiny. He'll be ok. It's hard, but, don't feel you have a responsibility to smooth the way for him. It truly is his own destiny and all we can do with our children, with whatever their differences and special needs may be, is to walk comforting and wisely alongside him. Save your passion and energy for THAT comforting and wise role. It would mean more to him than mom the slugger defender. Here's a link I found that might address your mention of adolescent considerations. Good luck to both of you.

http://www.aspergers.com/

Have you thought about Home Schooling him? I did with my soon. They do miss out having connections with other kids, but he could join the local recreation or YMCA close by. Just a thought. Or maybe a school for children that need more special attention? Good luck!

When you have children that young its easy to get over protective especially about school!

The environment and the people he will meet can't and should'nt be avoided it was the same way when I was in school in the 60's and it will be that way again!

How he is treated in school won't be as bad as you feel and even if he does have problems, it will be better that he learns how to deal with the kids now instead of later when he's married and looking for a job!

Care for him when he gets home and keep on good terms with him, because he will grow up before your eyes and if your too concerned about the people he meets in school, you could alienate yourself from him, and his friends

Good Luck!

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