how can I help my boyfriend realize it wasn't his fault his friend died in a auto accident?

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my current boyfriend was drunk one night and my ex-husband ( his cusin) was taking him home . well the roads were wet and he was speeding and a deer ran out in front of them. My ex swerved to miss the deer and lost control of the truck and hit a tree and got killed. my boyfriend now blames himself and wishes it was him who would've died and is really depresses. My ex husbands mom tells the guy that it is his fault and that he killed her son. My boyfriend is really emotional about all this . we have only been dating for aweek but have known each other for years . the accident only happened about 7 months ago and i'm afraid that my boyfriend is going to loose this battle with depression . i don't think he will go to counsling for it and i really want to help him . he makes my life feel whole again and my son likes him alot too. I really want to know what i can do to help im over come this so he can be happy again.

Answers:
This reaction is called "survivor guilt" and it is a very normal response to a traumatic event. It is difficult for human beings to feel grateful for being alive while at the same time feeling intense sorrow for those who did not survive.
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talk about it with him and get him to relise that its not his fault or take him to a theripist
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