Is it bad to be afraid to cry. Can I cry with someone? g2008_lady_jay@yahoo.com?
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i've been in your situation and while I was in it, i can say, it was hard to see the brighter side of life. But the best thing that I did was go see a family therapist. I was able to talk and cry it all out and most of all she helped me see things from a perspective that I hadn't explored before. She helped me open doors in my life that helped me gain self esteem, self confidence and strength to know that life is a thing that should be cherished.. She helped me see that I was a beautiful person inside and out regaurdless of how I felt about myself at the time. I think your brave for asking this question, but I think your more brave if you go talk to a professional about it.. A family therapist won't try to put you on medication, they will just try to talk things out that are causing this pain in your life and help you work through it. The things that happened to me in my life I thought I would never get over, never be able to forgive, and never forget. But I was wrong.. Sweatheart, you are still young, you are 16 and you have a long beautiful life ahead of you.. Please do all you can to make it worthwhile, there are plenty of other people who love you and there is a guy out there that is made just for you.. Work on your self, stop the hurt and pain and see a counselor.. You can always talk to a school counselor also, they will keep it confidential and they will make time for you at no charge.. i wish you luck, but i think that you have the strength in you by taking this first step to recognize that you need a little help on getting started to changing the way you think about life..
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Feeling pain over past memories is normal. I've been divorced for ten years and I still cry about it sometimes. What is not normal is that you are cutting yourself. You need psychological help with this. You need to learn ways to deal with your pain that aren't harmful to you.
This might not be what you want...but I recommend some sort of Therapy. And if you're afraid of real therapy; even finding a great friend who can listen and help in any way is better than wallowing in this sorry by yourself. I started going to friends because shrinks scared me too much; and it worked. But I still recommend some therapy,
You need to go and see someone that you trust and can talk to face to face. It's important that you know that you're not alone and that people care. Seriously, go talk to someone now.
This is your problem your looking for love in all the wrong places?
This is the way to get rid of the pain when your at home by yourself or in the middle of the night just start crying not to loud then everybody would know do it soft that help ease some of the pain.
Try listening to sad love songs boy that take the pain away when your depressed hearing that your not alone then listening to fast tempo love song.
Remeber don't stay depressed to long then your parents will start to notice and be all in your (Koolaid).
Oh before I forget only you can stop and start depressing not any crazy pills.
Them are made to treat one thing but usually give you five others.
Just have faith in yourself sometimes you be happy with goldfish and a dog sitting in the corner by yourself.
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i will cry with you i want your accept
Actually having to be afraid to cry is not a bad thing at all.This is because everyone has their own ways of solving their own problems.
To really think of it, crying sometimes help fade the problem away and also sometimes help you more of wanting to solve a problem.To tell the truth, having to cry alone is not bad at all.It's just that it makes you think more and keeps the problem inside.
So it best to express it to a friend,family member or someone that is willing to listen.
By doing this, it will help you of trying to forget the past. When it comes to wanting someone there, yes i know that most girls have a wanting of someone to share there problem with or just to have someone there to make them happy. Just be patient, that special someone will soon come.
Cutting yourself would not solve anything, but more of just making the problem stay inside!
Cheer up your not the only one that feels this.
I know that many girls have feel this way before
and went pass through it. So you could also do it to.JUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!
You just cry all you want to and don't be ashamed of it.
Please don't cut yourself anymore. You are harming yourself for someone that just is not worth it.
You're only 16. You will meet the right person some day and when you do, you will forget all about the past hurts.
Allow yourself to love!!
Coming from a therapist, I can tell you that my biggest concern is the self-injurious behaviors, the cutting. It is actually self hate and your really in dire need of some individual counseling. You need to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in the past and have a therapist guide you through finding healthier ways of coping with the hurt and anger you have towards yourself and others. If you 16, your hopefully in school. Go to your school counselor/psychologist, fully explain you situation, and they should get you the help that you need.
I can speak with you via email if you dont find the help you need or have other questions. cyfsocialworker at hotmail.com.
I know it hurts. Life can suck. I'm 4 years older than you, so let me tell you, it gets worse. But we have to deal. We have to survive. We do that by reaching out. Don't be afraid to show emotion. I'm sure your loved ones rather see you cry than find out that you you feel this way, and hide it. And don't worry about dating and guys. You will find someone. You're 16. Talk. I'm crying with you. I started coming out at your age, so I can understand your loneliness.
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