i'm thirteen and my friend's 14 and we are both really depressed and don't know why. HELP! please.
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Hi!
It probably is an age thing... Puberty is just wonderful, isn't it?
First of all, your hormones are on a rampage which makes you very sensitive and insecure. Let me guess... no one understands you or how you feel, no one really cares enough to try and the whole world is against you, right?
Also, this transition from child to teen is hard. Your parents still treat you like a child, but you are ready to have more trust and responsibility. Plus, things at school are tough at this age.
To feel better, you should get lots of rest, eat right and take some vitimins. Also, get involved at school when you start... cheerleading, student council, school newspaper, sports... whatever.
But know, depression is a serious illness. If you feel like you cannot overcome it or handle it any longer, you need to see a doctor.
Also, if the fatigue keeps up, you need to see a doctor. You might have Mononucleosis (Mono- the kissing disease). It is common around your age group... and you don't have to kiss someone to get it. Overwhelming fatigue is usually the main (common) symptom and you will feel the need to sleep all the time. Also, Mono is easy to catch and easy to spread. So if your friend is constantly tired too, you really-really need to see a doctor.
Take care of yourself and cheer up... eight years to go and you will be an adult.
Also, check out the links I provided on Mononucleosis.
Best Wishes... T.
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lol at least u can be depressed together. i guess all teens go through there depression phase. u just have 2 simply GET OVER IT
try talking to a doctor and a counselor and ur parents
get up and exercise.
Strenuous physical activity releases endorphins - endorphins make you feel happy -
This is why some people become "addicted" to exercising -
maybe teen stuff
talk to sumbody
It comes with being a teen
Okay, sweetheart. You'r thirteen and depressed? How depressed? "Really" isn't specific. I was extremely depressed at your age. Are you sure nothing's wrong? No big change in your life other than the switch to high school/last year in middles school?
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Yes, part of being in the teens means being depressed. I got to the point I almost enjoyed being depressed. LOL. It will pass as you get older, but meanwhile, keep yourself active in something you like. Don't stay bottled up in your room too much, locked in with your own thoughts.
Yeah, I feel that way too sometimes. It makes me want to be famous kinda, and meet famous people haha. Watching TV made me feel better, especially Dog the BOunty Hunter.
It could be because of a lot of personal tension you might be taking. Also, you both just became teenagers, so the pressure has appeared. The pressure to look cool, be with the coolest people in the school, college and have great friends. Maybe that is tiring you out. Are there any family troubles also bothering you? maybe having a group of friends where you can discuss stuff might help.
its cause you're in the break of puberty i was the same way in 6th grade. so bad i had to go to therapy. just think positive and don't give up.
here's a joke to brighten the mood
two elephants are sitting in a bath tub
one elephant says to the other elephant
'hey could you pass the soap'
the other elephant goes
'NOT SOAP! RADIO!'
lol
You guys are lacking vitamins. What are you eating? At your age you should be full of energy and vigor. When were you to the Dr.'s office for a physical?
how do you know you are depressed....have you been diagnosed?? youre tired because you are lazy thats all......when i was younger i never got tired nor depressed, and i was in a very busy household...get a grip on yourself girl.....get out and live your life
I've been through the same thing and I'm only 16. It was usually the people I was around. I used to get tired a lot, too. Somehow I got over it. Surround yourself with people you know will cheer you up or just spend sometime alone, read a book or watch your favorite movie. Those are some of the things that worked for me. Good luck.
sorry to hear that you are feeling sad. Usually school does that to a person. Sometimes feeling depressed at your age, is because you are trying to fit in and deal with bullies or other rude people at your school. Once you become independent and more confident in yourself and your skills that you learn in high school then things should be a bit more brighter. I know it's hard to deal with life at such a young age, but I have been through all that too. Sometimes you just need to talk about it, maybe you and your friend can share what you feel or do something constructive like do art, write , or play music. Try to do things that distract you and things that build you up. Life is tiring in general. That is one thing that never goes away though. Hope you have better spirits later on!
Yeah, it happened to me, too. There's two pieces of advice I can give you. First, don't give in to the tired feeling. It seems natural to rest and you'll feel better after, but that's not true. It just makes things worse. Second, try to focus on little things that yu can easily forget you like. Stupid things can really make you feel better. Looking at your favorite picture, reading your favorite book, watching your favorite movie, going to the park and playing on the swings, stuff like that. I hope this helps.
nothing to worry about, i am 15 and i still feel like how you are feeling sometimes. its normal its kinda like a part of pueberty
At times I ended up depressed and of course i was always freakin tired! it really sucks i know but that is part of growing up a way to boost your energy levels is try working out or a cardio aerobic exercises. this will boost your endorphins and make you happier. Also go out have fun see a funny movie do fun things with your friend maybe if you get out and socialize this will help you feel better and not be soo depressed i hope i helped!!
HORMONES! They make you tired, depressed, pissed off, manic (up all night for no reason). What your diet stay away from caffeine, soda, chocolate, sugars, breads. Keep at book on when you are feeling "off". If it last longer then two weeks everyday. DEFINITELY see a doctor!!
Good luck and (as dumb as it may sound) watch a great comedy it'll help.
sweetie, the first thing you need to do is to stop rooting your happiness in external events.
you need to find again a source inside yourself which is the root of all true happiness and vital energy.
sign into some yoga classes; eat better and healthier; find out what can you do for others in your community, school, etc (often helping others who really need it can be VERY fulfilling and make sense out of your life); avoid hollow friendships, music, news and movies; find things that inspire you and that mean something to you; play with your pet; spend more time in nature, enroll in something that you really feel passionate and interested about; in a few words dear... learn to know yourself much better and put yourself out in the world otherwise your potential is being undermined and that's where emptiness comes from!
My friends and I went throught that too. Your bodies are changing and confused, they are in the middle of adulthood and child. I suggest trying to not think about as much and go to the mall, or waterworld...somewhere that can take your mind off all the stupid $hit you have to deal with. And trust me, the tiredness and depression never goes away, I'm 23 and life still sux. This is what they call "womens' emotions." The only way to make it better is to focus on making you and your friends laugh, because once your laughing...the rest follows. :) email me if u need to talk ever.
watever u do dont cut yourselves... then u become emo, and if u do ur really screwed
oh, that sucks ={ well, to tell you the truth, I;m 16 and I sometiems get depressed too and that has been happening since I am 14 but its just sommething that teenagers go through, you know =) to take your depression away, talk to someone about it and do things that make you have fun =} live life happily, especially these young years because they are the ebst years in life and once they are gone, you will never get them back and you're gonna wish you were happy =] so get up, take off your sad face, put on a smile, and be happayyyyy!! fosho! =oD
exercise, take vitamins, eat larger portions to give you more energy and most of all find hobbies - having something to do by yourself or something you can do with another person helps. get to know yourself. changes happen around this age and you might just be a little confused right now but it will pass.
Sup dudes... Relax.. why you guys so depressed you guys are young... there is nothing to be depressed about... or have you been though heart ache (best friend died, parents are in devorcing stage, girls turn you down it happens dont let that bring you down) What kind of depression are you guys into?
Teens typically think in extremes: its the end of the world, im so in love, im so depressed, everything is so great. It goes on and on. Once you get a little older and a little more mature, you should see that, in life, there's a little good, and little bad, some fantastic, and some tragedy and with all of it youll generally feel okay.
Godd luck to you, and relax. Things probably arent nearly as bad as you think they are, and if they are, contact me at cyfsocialworker@hotmail.com
You don't say if you are boys or girls and that can make a difference. It's not normal to always be tired at your age. It sounds like you and your friend are not getting enough exercise because the more you sit around the less energy you have and the greater the build up or lack of natural chemicals in your blood stream that affect your mental state.
Why don't you and your friend go on bike rides or join a sports team or play tennis together or something like that? Get out of the house and get some exercise and some sun light and fresh air.
Another cause of depression at your age has to do with coming out of a child like mentality. You watch the news on TV and you hear about all of the bad things that happen to people and you are no longer just a little kid who trusts that your mother and father can make every thing alright in your life.
That's when you need to start a saving relationship with God through Christ Jesus. Do you go to church? Have you asked Jesus to come into your heart? When a person knows that they have supernatural help and a real purpose for living it's hard to stay depressed and when you do feel down you can always tell it to your Heavenly Father!
Philippians 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition, along with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, shall guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers, as many things as are true, as many as are honorable, as many as are just, as many as are pure, as many as are lovely--if there is any virtue and if there is any praise--meditate on these things. 9 The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, practice these things; and the God of peace shall be with you.
Psalms 34:7 The angel of the LORD encamps around those who fear him, and delivers them. 8 Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in him! 9 Oh, fear the LORD, you his saints, for those who fear him have no lack! 10 The young lions suffer want and hunger; but those who seek the LORD lack no good thing.
Yeah. Older people forget what it's like and tend to say to younger people that there is nothing they should be sad about, that life is good, etc. But I remember that my teen years were some of the roughest to date, especially 13-17. You're no longer a kid with little understanding of reality, but you're also put down by older people or looked down upon as a troublemaker.
As well, even if you don't realize it, you're at a point in life where you're on your way to figuring out who you are and what your personal limits are. You are surrounded by other kids who place a LOT of importance on pop culture, clothing, relationships, etc. I always heard people talk about peer pressure but I figured it wasn't happening to me cause no one was coming up to me saying, "TRY THIS CIGARETTE!" or "you dress funny, you suck.' Not to say that kids don't say this. Just that, peer pressure is kind of an invisible force sometimes that you can't pinpoint but that weighs down on you and you might not be aware of it. There's this pervasive need to be looked at, have people admire you, be thought of as cute or funny or be desired. This is all normal, cause you're coming into your own. But it can also be overwhelming, cause to fit all those things you have to be a certain way. If you're a girl, you feel you have to be like other girls who are percieved like this, and boys feel like they're expected to like only certain types of girls.
Whew! I'm getting stressed out just remembering it all. I'm almost 22 now and now that I'm done junior high and high school, life is so much more free of those constraints. Sure it comes with new stresses, but it's not like in the teen years. I ride the bus home from work sometimes and see teenagers from the school i used to go to and I feel really bad for them - everyone is trying SO hard. Maybe those are the pressures you're feeling that make you and your friend feel depressed.
Not to mention, a lot of it is from hormones. Even if it feels real, and it is - you take in different situations differently when your body is running crazy with new hormones.
Boy, this turned out to be a long answer. Uuhhh, hang in there. The sad times WILL pass. Find things outside of what's cool by other people's standards and try em out - art, photography, writing, math, friends you actually like spending time with -whatever makes you happy. It will help you stand out and feel like you actually like YOURSELF for who you are.
Do you get enough sleep? (7+ hours a night are suggested)
Do you have a lot of sugar and/or fat in your diet? (Sodas, candy, chocolate, etc. can trigger mood swings, and when you come off the sugar rush it frequently leaves you exhausted)
Do you exercise? (Exercise helps regulate your metabolism, relieve stress, and build endurance.)
If you are doing all the things that keep you healthy, then talk to your doctor or nurse, they can check to see if there's something wrong with you physically, and suggest a counselor if there isn't.
I'm around your age, and yes, I always feel worthless though I know that I am not. I feel that no one understands me. I also get stressed very easily because I feel that I have to meet certain expectations, and if I don't, I will be despised and frowned upon.
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