wanting a radical change in life?

Question:

..ok this sounds too vague.. may be i shud condense that a little..
well the point i've been thru lotta things b4 good and bad...but mostly bad.. i think i procrastinate a lot and feels weak to change my old habits and perception. letz say i been thinkin' about it for long and now i have a clear image of what i want to be..(meaning the person or character i wish to change to..) and i deep inside feel my true self which has been smothered with bad experience. Okay! now i know my goal... how do i begin a fresh walk in life...leaving all that behind and have strength to stay on the right track on change?( u know not gettin' demotivated after one-two week..sinkin' back to same old hell thing!)... if anyone can help me...who went thru same... please any advice or some kind of help.. i'm open to all positive views, counsells, advices and opinions..any help

thank you!

Answers:
Sounds to me like you have been feeling the same as I have. Recently, I have had some good things happen, and feel I am helping to make good things happen. Each time I've gone out of my "comfort zone" just a little, good things have happened.

Here's what I've done. It may help you, but depends on your specific wants, needs, and issues.

First, I wrote down everything I didn't like about myself. I mean everything. I included all the issues I have been dealing with throughout my entire life. I keep the list handy, and look at it weekly. Just getting it out of my head and onto paper, and seeing it was very liberating. I have not resolved most of the issues, but it helps me to be able to have a tangible overview and "quantify" my issues. And I'm starting to see some of these problems in a new, less critical light, and say, "so what!"

Second, I made the decision to no longer care what others think of me. This has been one of my biggest problems. But reminding myself of this lets me do things that I was afraid to do, and I am much happier because I am making decisions for me, not for what I think others want. It's my "job" to make me happy, not others. (This does not mean I am not polite or mean to others.)

Third, I have sat down and really thought about what is important to me; what I value. (I use the Franklin-Covey system, but you don't have to. I have no relationship with them.) I have written all his down, and prioritized my values. Then, I am writing goals and a gameplan to reach these goals.

All this is a lot of work, and it is taking months. I do not work on all this everyday, but writing these down and looking at them several times a week, as well as planning my days helps tremendously. Being firm but gentle with myself helps alot. I go to the gym 5 days a week now, and spend time with family and friends, and share my "new' thoughts only with those who will support and not be critical.

Do not beat yourself up. But acknowledge you are who you are. I don't think you can (or should) throw the old you away. Build upon it. Invest in yourself. Accept who you are, and who you were, and move toward that person you want to be.

Also, it's helped me to understand why I do and feel certain ways. These websites may help you learn more about yourself:

http://www.keirsey.com/
http://www.typelogic.com/typelinks.shtml#tests
http://www.queendom.com/

Best of luck!

just go out and do what you want to do! : ) Good luck!

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