My fiance was a kidnap victim, who was raped and beaten for two years. She now suffers from PTSD..any advice?

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I would like to know how to handle this delicately. The man responsible will be out of prison October of next year, and we will have to face him in court to make it ok for me to legally adopt the two children my wife had in accordance with the rape. I love my boys very much, and she means the world to me. But alot of times I will wake up to her damn close to screaming, and along with the night terrors, which leave cuts and bruises all over her, along with a myriad of another afflictions, I'm afraid of two things. One, that she will commit suicide if I over step my boundaries (don't get me wrong I treat her like everyone else, I don't pity her), and two, I'm afraid of what I'll find out. Any advice could really help me alot.

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I would recommend finding therapy for her, but also, find a therapist for yourself...you deserve help too!

I would highly recommend finding a therapist who specializes in the treatment of trauma. When someone has experienced a lot of trauma, their central nervous system is constantly activated. It can be difficult to regulate emotions, and they may feel anxious and unsafe much of the time. There are various techniques that a trauma specialist can use to help discharge some of that stored traumatic energy (that lives in the body). Such techniques include EMDR http://www.emdr.com/q&a.htm and Somatic Experiencing http://www.traumahealing.com/registry.html

Good luck. You both deserve help and support

Get her in counseling or go yourself to find out how to deal with her in the best way.

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