Displaced anger?
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you have taken the first step by realizing that it is displaced anger. Good for you! And Good for you for apologizing to your boyfriend. Those are two very big steps. Now the last and most difficult step is to place the anger where it belongs. It seems as though you have to work out some way of talking to your stepmother and letting her know that her behavior is really annoying you.
Choose your words carefully. You have acted maturely up until now. Talk to your step mother in a civil tone without name calling, yelling, or eye rolling. (forget the attitude)
Sounds like you are making some insightful choices so far, go for it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,...
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Let the person who angered you know. DOn't hold it inside & take it out on someone who loves you dearly.
Tell your step mother to get out of your face!
Well, you are no long a child. You need to sit down with your stepmother when things are NOT heated and talk to her about your relationship. It sounds like you are not lucky enough to be 'friends' and that is certainly fine. But as you get older you need to redefine your relationship. You should tell her that you are an adult and you would like to be treated like an adult----now on the other side of the fence-----she may have valid complaints!! You need to also be adult enough to look at the things she is saying and see if there is any validity to them. You cannot change her, you can only change YOURSELF. How you chosse to react to her, how you choose to treat her---all of those things will help to determine HER reactions as well.
You will ALWAYS get more with honey than you do with vinegar. Sometimes that means 'sucking it up' and not having to be 'right'.
Have you tried talking to your dad?
The first step to keep this from happening again is to be aware of how you feel (angry). It's okay to feel that way. Everybody gets angry at times.
Some things you can do to help alleviate some of the anger you get built up inside:
Take several deep breaths, so deep that you can imagine the air going all the way down to the bottoms of your feet. Each time you let the breath out, visualize all the anger and tension coming out with it. Say to yourself, "Breathing in, I calm my body. Because my body is calm, my mind is calm."
Write a journal about your feelings and why you feel that way. (Keep it where it's safe from everybody but you.) Or draw pictures that express your feelings. Or sing or dance to let your feelings out.
Talk about your feelings with a friend or older trusted person. It helps to have someone who will listen sympathetically.
i get pissed too. just take a walk or meditate holistic-online.com. it's not easy but we have to control ourselves in this crazy world. hope all is well.
Express yourself to the person you are angry with; that will stop you from attacking innocent people.
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