amoung other mental health problems i suffer with really bad self esteem and self opinion?

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how come when this is at its worst and i feel totally like crap, i really struggle to talk to anybody or hold conversation, especially with girls? i can talk to my parents wen im like this but no one else, i just seem to close up and withdraw and feel deeply embaressed to say anything, especially to girls, mostly on the internet because i dont no any other girls. and it doesnt matter that they cant see me, i just feel so horrendous i cant even engage with them? can anyone relate to this?

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Yes, in a way, but you just have to tell yourself you're beautiful. Hard right? Okay say: I like the colour of my eyes. They're unique only to me. Nice and special. Now say: I like the colour of my hair. The style is unqiue to me. Nice and special. Any dimples? Those are cute on a face, but without them one can still have a cute face. Talk to girls as you would want them to talk to you. We're no strange species, we're just like men, but with some obvious differences in bodily appearence! Smile a lot. That clears up any signs of ugliness. People are very beautiful when they smile. There's lots to smile about. Birds singing in the trees, clouds in the sky, wind in the flowers. Get a bunch of flowers and put them next to you in a vase. Smell them-watch for bees-so don't pick those-but bee free flowers are lovely. Put the flower head in a lapel if you have one, or sticking out of your pocket and you'll feel brighter. Many people have self esteem issues and low self opinion. You're not alone there. It's not always easy to combat but people try and it works for them. I give you full encouragement that you can find a wonderful person inside you.

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I can but all i no is that ur wayyyyyy higher if i was to compare u with me. ps i m sorry if i offended anny one.

if all your conversation are like this no wonder

Not really. You should consider a therapist or one of those self help books.
Peace.

I AM A FEMALE AS WELL AND WHEN I WAS YOUNGER IN SCHOOL GIRLS USED TO PICK ON ME. LOOKING BACK I REALIZE THEY WERE JUST JEALOUS, WHICH FEMALES OFTEN ARE. MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY A SUPPORT GROUP OR SOMETHING. BUT YOUR PAST CAN REALLY DISTURB YOU SOMETIMES THAT'S WHY I DON'T HAVE ANY FEMALE FRIENDS! GOOD LUCK!

This is the problem of the day, for men and women, and robs the joy from life. I have it.
Here is what I do:
http://www.dbsalliance.org The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance has local groups. I attend two a week, to discuss with others who understand.
"The Feeling Good Book," by Dr David Burns has become an institution. By doing the exercises in this book, you begin to recognise and change the thought patterns that hold you back. It's hard work.
It does work! There are self esteem deveoping exercises. He helps you chart your moods. There are usually ten copies in a library!
Yahoo Groups depression-anxiety is a good place to be in good company.
Do these things, although you probably just want to go back to bed. Action preceeds emotion, if you wish to recover.

Hi hun! Yes I do too! I have always been a loner! I felt no one ever listened to me. If they did listen they didn't hear what I said. I found the best thing to do was to: Avoid negative sources,people, places,things and habits! Thinking positive replace positive with the negative if you feel sad then do something that makes you happy! If you feel lonely! Get out around people that love you! If you have bad traits, then you need to work on making them good traits! Working on yourself takes time and it keeps your mind busy! When you have anger thoughts replace them with loving thoughts! Its not easy but start practicing now to help your self esteem! Remember you are the most important person in the world! If your fat go on a diet, start exercising! Do things for yourself that make you happy! Only you can change your thoughts and your personality! Pamper yourself! By taking care of your hygene! When you go out put on your best clothes! This will help with yourself esteem. When the thoughts of I'm not important, I'm ugly, I'm helpless, hopeless etc. goes through your mind. Train your mind to react! Tell yourself these things are not true! Replace them with the positive oppisites! We are all getting older and our body ages but our minds don't need to! We are as young as we think! There is no failure except in no longer trying! Failure isn't falling down. It's staying down! Start improving your self esteem today! P.S. it is hard for me to hold a conversation with people on messenger. Some times I just go blank and don't know what to say. So I wing it. I say hows the weather? let them respond then I say- -Its storming here. Wait for them to say something if they don't then say: Whats your plans for today? Wait for their response. then say I'm going to --------(what ever your plans are.) Make sure you always wait for them to respond back. They may have something to talk to you about. Ask them what they do for fun? Wait for their response then tell them you go to the pool and what ever else you do for fun. One item at a time so your conversation last longer. Wait for a response. Then tell them something else you like to do? Ask them, if they like it. What for their response. If they say I got to go. Say ok have a great day, talk later, bye bye or good night. I hope I helped. Good luck! It takes hard work to work on your self esteem everyone does it its part of life! Hugs! Von!

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