I cannot let a day go by without.. am I strange?
Question:
My husband has never come home to the same style room, even the day I came home from giving birth, is this a sign of a problem?
Answers:
I do that when I feel out of control. Mentally out of control. If I change my surroundings to be in order, then maybe my life will magically be in order. I do the same thing with painting. When my life hasn't become my own, I will rearrange and paint. Then I feel, for a short while, that I have control and happy. I am married and have 4 kids and if I feel overwhelmed with the mommy/wife thing, I'm not happy and in control, so I feel if the outside is in order, clean and organized then the world won't see the inside isn't. You can try to find out what is making you unhappy and try to change YOU, not your surroundings.
Other Answers:
If no one in your life sees it as a problem then I wouldn't worry about it. At least your husband is surprised everyday. You might have OCD but as long as it is not a problem I would not worry about it.
yah man. its pretty weird.
heres a few tips
u can hang out with freinds
watch movies tv
god dont tire ur self on furnitures.
Get out the house. Sounds like it's something you have control over in your life,and you like that.
A bit OCD,you think?
If you do it to the point of exhaustion,depression,or anxiety-it's a problem.
If you enjoy it-that's ok.
Yeah, it is a touch obsessive compulsive, but if it isn't impacting you negatively, then don't sweat it. Obsessive compulsive disorder can be medicated. Its a body problem, not a mind problem, an imbalance. If you start going nuts about whether you locked the house or washing your hands ten times an hour, go see someone. But if it's just a rearranging the furniture thing, hell, a change is as good as a holiday. Are you a home body..maybe you need a fun ladies group for moms.
some people gorge on food,some do drugs, others gamble, but you rearrange furniture. i wouldn't be to worried unless this habit effects your personal relationship with your family.
If you're worried about it, it's a problem. Compulsions can definately be accurately self-diagnosed. And they'll get worse as you get older.
Try Alanon.
Do you think it's a problem. Forget what anyone thinks. I've heard crazier stories. U might be different from others. If your husband is not so out of shape about it, then u have less to worry about. this is a classic example of an obsessive compulsive behavior. OCD behaviors can manifest themselves in all kinds of ways, from washing hands to flicking switches, to really harmful ones like pulling out your own hair.
But is it a problem..well thats really up to you. The test of that would be does your compulsion stop you from leading a normal happy life. Like, can you not go on vacation, because you have to rearrange the furniture? or do you not accomplish everything you want to each day?
Basically is it holding you back in some way. If yes, then the compulsion is a problem, if no then ehh. If no one cares about the furniture, how cares if it is strange.
And don't worry you're not alone, many many people have some small compulsions of there own, like eating or touching their hair.
It is a little strange but not really. maybe you think it's all part of your everyday routine to do the household chores and part of that daily routine is rearranging everything inside the house.I don't think it has to do with some mental problem or anything with that matter.Maybe you should try to divert your mind to some other things so that you will not be doing the same routine everyday.maybe you should go out with your friends sometimes for an all girls day out or something that you would enjoy doing aside from rearranging your furnitures.
Try other things that would catch your interest and try to have a schedule for a general cleaning in your house once a week and little by little you will get used to it.Life outside your home is definitely wonderful and it's all in your hands how you can make the most out of it.Of course together with your family.
First of all, you stated that you were bored. Rearranging the furniture brings a sense of "newness." It is possible, too, that by rearranging the "environment", your attempting to rearrange your LIFE by bringing a sense of newness through Creativity. Is there a sense of suffocation in your Life? Are you a creative person with talents that you have really never used but, are calling out? If your good at rearranging furniture, why not take a course in interior decorating and expand your knowledge? Thus taking that knowledge and creativity into the outside world and making some extra money, too? Everyday would be a new challenge and the meeting of new people. And, your confidence and selfesteem would blossom because your doing something that you love to do. In loving what you do makes work, no longer, work! You would have a total win/win environment in youur life. Research this. Speak with a counselor on a short term basis to see if this is related to Obessive Compulsive behavior and if you have dealt with the past and your mother. If O/C, isn't part of these behaviors, go for it. Challenge yourself in seeing how many beautiful environments you can create and sell them to the public or write for a magazine. Go for it. Good Luck. You have described some of the classic symptons of OCD and it usually worsens over time and may debilitate you to the extent that you cannot lead a normal life. I wonder based on your description if you are teaching this behavior or if your young ones actually have OCD. I tend to think the earlier since your child is so very young. This is a treatable condition and not to seek professional help especially when you have children in the home watching your every movement is not your ideal situation. OCD is on the rise and the stigma of days gone past is now gone. You can go to to your family physician or preferrable to a mental health clinic to see a professional. Sometimes a mild dose of an anti-depressant with other properties can do wonders without side effects. Some of the older drugs that have been around awhile are used by the local physicians. At any rate, cross that bridge and take care of yourself and by doing so you will be taking care of your children! For more information call your state's mental health help line. Most states have a 800# and it can be found in your phone book. I cannot give you the number as you do not say which state you are in. Also research OCD on the web. Education is wonderful no matter what you have!
You poor thing! It's not enough that you are wearing yourself out because you have to with the children, and trying to better yourself with classes, but then placing the undo stress upon yourself of constantly cleaning and rearranging furniture! If this is not a problem in your life, then I would do as someone already suggested and continue onward, business as usual; however, if this is a problem or soon to become one, I would seek help. OCD is readily diagnosed and treatable and has a huge success rate with treatment. I wish you and yours well. God bless!
P.S. Only a doctor can diagnose a disorder, this is just my two cents. Again, good luck! you and your children might have o.c.d. my brother has it, and obsessively washes his hands, rearanges his toys, and cleans everything before he touches it. go to a doctor and see. but it might not be the case. everyone has some o.c.d. your might show a bit more.
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