Not feeling connected to wife and kids?
Question:
It is one thing not to feel connnect to me but the kids is a whole issue on it's own.
Does anyone have experince with hoiw to help or handle this? Have you felt this way? What changed it for you? He says he wants to feel connnected. He is upset that he can paly with our kids and doens't seem to feel the joy he think he should feel or sees the fun that I have with them.
With me he syas he has never felt like he could totally let go and laugh and have fun? I can hardly imagine why he even asked to marry me. He says he loves us but....
He is 36 , we've been married 5 years and the kids are both under 3
Answers:
Apathy being unable to enjoy thing you used to enjoy are symptoms of depression very often underestimated if it doesn't come with sadness and melancholy... It is very likely he is suffering from it.
Your husband gave the two very important steps towards getting better: (1) Being aware of it (sometimes the person doesn't stop to question himself about this changes) and (2) he shared it with you.
It is admirable that he shared this feelings with you. Firstly, because any person feels ashamed when he/she feels like that and secondly, because he is a man and men have more problems to share their feelings.
I think he is desperate and this will help him to be open receive professional help. I recommend you to go to a psychologist. He/she will help you both to not to feel guilty with the situation, to face it and to solve it.
It sounds like he's suffering from depression.
Take him to see a professional.
who does he feel connected to? why? what makes him so comfortable around those people?
and if there isnt any one whom he is comfortable with then he needs some counseling- and go to church and find the love of God- that will usually open someones heart to be happy and joyful every day with any one- its all about "Love"
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