When someone tells you that they're depressed and cut themselves.th. stop talking to you.? (revised)?

Question:

Okay everyone gave great answers, but I thought that I would revise my question to answer some of your concerns. I am 25 my boyfriend is 36. We have been dating for about 2 months now. 2 weeks ago he told me about his depression and showed me his scars from where he had cut himself before. My response was why do you do that? Does it relieve your stress or something?

I feel like an idiot! I just wasn't really thinking of it as a serious thing. Well I have tried to contact him a few times and I could tell he was trying to be kind to me, but he is avoiding seeing me. I want to go to him and tell him that I love him unconditionally and will do what it takes for him to get better.

Would he be avoiding because of my reaction or his fear of admiting he is in pain? I need your advice. Thank you all very much!

Answers:
you really need to get him some help and don't baby him over this cause this may make him do it more. if he refuses help contact a family member of his or close friend that can get him into some kind of treatment. not only is he scarring himself mentally and physically it will only get worse and can lead to deadly blood diseases and much more.

DO NOT MESS AROUND WITH THIS ISSUE BEFOR IT GETS OUT OF CONTROL IF U CARE FOR HIM!!

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i cut myself cuz it feels good

http://www.depression.com/

He's probably wanting attention. Don't give it to him. Date somebody with less baggage.

i think he just wants some time alone. u know lay low for a while. it might not even be u. so don't worry about. if it goes to far, u should contact some help area. just don't push him, like trying to see him too much.

Tell him he needs to get some help. Not only for you but for your relationship, you love him so much you want to see him happy and not in pain. Tell him that you'll be there for him every step of the way and that you're happy that you shared this information with him so you can help him.

That guy or girl can be in love and their lover does not want them.um or it can be they need attention. But depression is something people need to solve on their own.

i think he is avoiding you because of the way you must have acted when he told you .when someone has a problem like that its really hard to open up and tell people because you think people will think your werid or they might not understand .by you not taking him seriously you must have made him feel bad it took alot of balls for him to come out and tell you that .and you just blew him off .call him and tell him that you understand and that your truly sorry and that you want to help and you will do anything to make him get better

YOU JUST ANSWERED YOUR OWN ? GIVE HIM A COUPLE OF DAYS TO ABSORB THE EMOTIONS HE IS FEELING..WHILE YOU ARE GIVING HIM SOME SPACE WRITE HIM A DETAILED E-MAIL SIMILAR TO WHAT YOU JUST WROTE IN YOUR REVISED QUESTION.SEND IT AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. GOOD LUCK.

I cut to releive pain, its easier to SI ( self injurer) I am a 35 year old female and have cut just today. It feels good and is in no way a suicidal attempt. Most SI don't want to commit suicide. They want to release NOT stress but emotions and this is the best way we know how to go about it.

When people cut they do it to relieve stress or help cope with it. Sometimes they do it without even thinking.Some people drink, cry, write in a journal.well cutting is their way. Maybe your boyfriend is alittle embarassed and scared you might think he is abnormal. Try maybe writing him a letter telling him that you understand and that you truely do love him. Good Luck!

Does your boy friend still cut himself? If so then like people already said get a specialist. If you love him so much you have to meet him some where and tell him. If he keeps avoiding you then maybe dating him is to much trouble. He maybe a little old for you.

he is probably embaresed

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