How to cope with constant pressure?
Question:
I am also having problems with my home life and my relationship with my partner is difficult at the moment. I face taking a very low paid job if I leave my current one (it is extremely specialised and I would have to set up a company on my own to continue in the field I am trained in). I would really struggle to cope financially if this were the case.
I find it more and more difficult to concentrate at any one thing at a time. More and more, I feel like I just cannot cope at all and I am at a loss at what to do. Sometimes I feel I am losing my mind and I want to stop it all for a while - but how. Increasingly, I sit and my mind is completely blank - I cannot even think of what I am supposed to be doing, there is so much to think about.
How do I get a grip?
Answers:
Both previous answers (first and second) make sense. You do need to talk to someone. I am Catholic too and this plays a part in keeping me sane. I run a specialised printing company and I am always at work meeting rediculous deadlines. I have worked round the clock on many occasions to get ahead but each new day brings new work and tighter deadlines so I do empathise with your position. I have been currently working 7 days a week with Monday to Fridays from 7am to 8pm and a few hours at the weekend but my family helps and supports me immensely.
Concerning your mind going blank I get that and I am in my 30's. I write everything down and keep a daily planner that carries duties across to the next day if I don't get things done.
Change your diet as well. I take fruit to snack on and have a multi vitamin at my desk while I am eating a sandwich and I have increased my water intake. This has made me feel less lethargic.
The old saying less haste more speed comes to mind.
Hope this helps. I need to get busy myself now. Good luck
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I don't know if you are religious, or not. I am a Catholic, and I place my trust in the Lord, who oversees everything in my life to take care of things. He is in total control of everything happening. I am at peace with everything, even in adversities. You can experience this also, if you are a believer. If you are not yet a believer, you can become one. Do it in baby steps in the beginning.
Maybe you should see a professional counsellor and try to take a sabbatical from your job so that you can more easily focus on one thing at once.
You know, I've been struggling with this same plight in an ever increasing fashion ever since my mid thirties, when I gave up my former Bad Boy lifestyle! Unfortunately, I'm self-employed so I have No retirement bennies, no health insurance, virtually no social security to speak of & while I'm five times divorced, I'm engaged to be married to my soon to be sixth wife as soon as she gets out of prison after serving time for a sentence which is/was supposed to keep me from doing life (We'll find out if her ploy was successful next month, when I go to trial for the same crime she pled guilty to over a year ago) so, IMHO, if the shoe were on the other foot, I"d count my blessings & try to get a grip a little better. Try working a little more on your organizational skills & when at home, leave the work issues at work, lest you divest yourself of your romantic holdings. Oh, & one other thing there, Mr Gates, I really love what you did with the new Windows system, Vista!!
GRIT YOUR TEATH
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I used to work for a big bank in IT and was put under an immense amount of pressure. I also had problems at home and soon developed high blood pressure.
This forced me away from work for 6 months. During this time I learnt how to relax and how to cope.
The important thing to remember is that your health is more important than any job.
If the work is getting you down and your management is not supporting you, then it's problably time for a career move.
I did this and moved from an IT job to an Office admin type job.
I was able to make the rules and set time scales and had flexibility in the hours I worked - as long as the day-to-day work was done.
I have also become a scout leader which has helped me focus on helping other people. When I am at a meeting, that, for the time being, is the important thing in life. Nothing else exists outside during the meeting.
I also go camping with the scouts. Although this can be physically draining, I get a certain solice when I am in my own tent in the middle of the countryside. I sleep well and know I am doing something worthwile. Also, it's important to feel appreciated (the main cause of stress is not being appreciated and feeling dumped on) and even more so being told you are.
GENTLE MAN ,PLEASE COOL DOWN FIRST.
THE MISFORTUNES COME BY YARDS AND GO BY INCHES.
THERE IS A PROVERB.
WHEN YOU ARE AT ROME DO AS ROMANS DO.
YOU CAN NOT SET RIGHT THIS COMPANY PROBLEMS BY OVER NIGHT.
WHAT IS THE MODE OF YOUR WORK AND HOW MUCH YOU ARE VALUED TO THE COMPANY ARE YOU INDISPENSABLE? IF NOT PLEASE TAKE LEAVE SHOWING SOME VALUABLE REASONS.
BE AWAY FROM ALL THESE PRESSURES. AFTERWORDS YOU CAN THINK WHAT TO DO?
ALWAYS A WORRIED MAN LACKS CONCENTRATION AND COMMIT BLUNDERS. HENCE TRY TO BE CALM AND DO THE WORK.
THERE IS BOOK ON HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING BUY DALE CARNAGE
]BUY THIS BOOK AND KEEP IT AS A REFERENCE BOOK TO LIVE.
GOOD LUCK.
You could take some sick leave and perhaps see a councellor who will help you to have some me time and sort our your feelings and where you want to be. Another thing is you say you are in a high paid job and you would struggle financially if you left. Money isn`t everything and if it brings you peace of mind it will be worth it. You might be surprised how you cope as you will get by somehow. You could perhaps delegate some jobs at work they have probably been piling work on to you unfairly. Try and be assertive. What if they would let you have an assistant to help you perhaps a junior or someone part time. See if your partner will go to relate or marriage guidance to try and sort out you relationship. Tell him how difficult it is for you at the moment and ask him to sit down and talk things through. Hope you get through this and your life improves. Remember money isn`t everything.
write down various areas of your life e.g home,relationship,career etc. deal with each one separately and look at how you can simplify each area of your life. once you have tackled each one you should start to feel more in control and happier, hope this helps.
gronda,
getting a grip as you put it as if someone can just make everything OK,I'm afraid no one can,but we can offer you help and understanding/
i have read other questions from you which is what i normally do before i reply to questions.
i do not think that the work place although important to you is the main issue here, i am not surprised concentration is difficult and you have a lot on your mind.sometimes we substitute the real cause with one we feel more comfortable with,IE blame work,its more acceptable and easier to talk about and for people to emphasise with.
i am listener06y@yahoo.co.uk
if you want to discuss it more,please contact e,you are not the first nor will you be the last person to go through this/
mike
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