Crazy mother-in-law?

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Ok. My fiance and I are getting married this October. In Feb, we made an animated announcement and sent it via email to all our famiy and friends. We hadn't heard from his mom since the May before (she was mad that we moved in together.we had told her, but she said we never informed her we were moving in), and we didn't get a "Congrats" or anything from her; not even a "I received the email." So, I tried to call and didn't get through, and sent an email, asking if she got the email and if she was planning on participating. She called back and left a message, congratulated us, but said she wanted to know what we needed from her. Her congrats seemed kind of forced to me. My fiance is now questioning inviting her, as she is very selfish and has caused a scene at every major event, including college grad. Should he just call his mom and tell her he feels uncomfortable, or just invite her and hope for the best? He's really mad at her, and so am I. We went out for 4 years before this.

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wow shes a hand ful

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invite her( both events) and see what happens, if you don't that's just asking for trouble.

perhaps your future mil is hurt because you didnj't send her a special invitation. I recommend that you invite her to the wedding and that whoever is giving the shower also invite her. Tell her you need her support and look forward to a long happy relationship with her. There is a saying, "you can pick your friends but you can't pick your relatives" You will feel better for taking the high road.

Invite her if she comes fine, if not that's her problem. You are in for a life of hell with this woman. She is a control bit*h. She will not change when you get married. She will get worse. Good luck to you both. I have a mother-in-law from Hell.
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Just invite her; whether she goes or not. Don't look for trouble. Just remember that "that woman" gave birth to your future husband.and your new husband will bare some of her traits and so will your children to be. Try hard to get along and don't do anything to leave her out. If shoe were on the other foot and you were not invited and left out of family functions you would not like it. Behave as though you are a functional family and try and ignore the dysfunction. You won't like everything about anybody; but you have to learn to accept people for the way they are and not try and change them or you will just bang your head against a brick wall. Hopefully someone will tell her the same thing; accept you and not try and change you or pick petty things to complain about. Just get on with it.

Yes invite her. If she comes fine, if not fine. Don't get caught up in games. Just go on and enjoy the life you are building together. Do not fight, argue or dwell on your future MIL behavior because then you are giving her exactly what she wants which is attention. It is hard and frustrating I know but that's the best thing to do. Unfortunately we do not always get to choose our relatives.

I'm no expert that is for sure although I also have a crazy Mother-in-law I would say no you shouldn't feel like you have to invite her to the bridal shower you two are obviously not close. But as far as the wedding This is her son we are talking about she should be invited no matter how difficult this may be think about how you would feel and also might you and your fiance rather suffer through what might be her being a pain in the butt at your wedding rather then a lifetime of "oh I wouldn't know I wasn't invited to." And so on and so on- Well there are my thought but ultimately this is up to you and your soon to be good luck

Christ. Are we marrying into the same family? That sounds like my mother in law.

You have a monster-in-law too? I'm sorry she's such a biotcht! This has happened to me too. Mom-in-law doesn't have our phone numbers. We haven't even told her where we live. We seldom visit her and both agree that she doesn't need to be a part of our lives if she acts the way she does. She doesn't get a bday, xmas, or mothers' day card. She has gone as far as suggesting what to wear?

Two years ago, she asked what I was doing for my b-day? I answered nothing, since my parents said that they would come to town for dinner but weren't sure? I didn't feel I needed to inform her of this.
So what does mom-in-law do? She said not to make plans because I was having my bday dinner/cake at her house? A day before my bday I said, "thanks but no! my parents are comming down short notice and I'm not changing my mind." I left her hanging. Ha Ha Ha! She does this everytime!

My husband and I are having our religious ceremony this year. Guess what? His mom is not invited! She can call it what she wants, do all the gossiping.but her efforts will be useless. We both checked with the elders (our grandparents from both sides) to see if we were doing the right thing. This is what they all said:

"You don't have to invite anyone you don't want! Even if you feel bad for them..After all, IT'S YOUR WEDDING! Not your mom-laws! If she doesn't get an invite then she "knows" why? If she decides to come with someone who is invited and makes a scene? It will make her look very stupid. She will only embarrass herself, not the two you! She's jealous! And needs to get the hint? You don't depend on her anymore and you have your own lives to live"

I hope this helps and that it works out for the two of you! Cheers!

GRANDPARENTS RULE!!
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personal experience

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