How do I bring up the subject of my depression and getting help?

Question:

I have depression and serious thoughts of suicide. I have been told by doctors that I still have depression, even after taking anti-depressants for my headaches. I was told not to take my anti-depressants anymore because I began self harm and I wasn't the same. My doctor gave my mother a list of recomendations with people's number's on it so I could simply have someone to talk to about my problems because they began building up inside. This was over six months ago and I've reminded my mother to schedaul an appointment for me so I could get help. My mother seems to have forgoten that am suffering from servere depression. How do I bring up the subject of me seeing a shrink of someone without having to tell her about my thoughts of suicide? What if she says that I am fine and don't need to get help?

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Well if your mother says you're fine, then she's just avoiding the fact that you are severly depressed. You should just see a doctor immediately, your mental health comes first. If you're a minor, it might be kinda hard to go on your own. If that's the case then you'll need to talk to your mom and find a way to convince her. Best of luck

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she is your mother. you really need to tell her these things. she will want to help you and once you see somebody about it you will work it out.

You need to do what's best for YOU. Don't worry about what other people think or say. Tell your mother IMMEDIATELY because this is a very serious matter. Take care of yourself. There are options for you. Don't give up! call the samaritins your self dont wait for you mom to do it, unfortunitly you need to take charge and get help your self it is probobly a good idea to do that part of it your self call some one any of the number in the phone book under help lines. Take charge yourself.

Try the suicide hot line. 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or log in @
www.saferchild.org/suicide.htm

Depression is not a joke and you can feel better, try the above. There are many ways to get the help you need with or without your mother being involved. Those two options will offer you choices.give it a try

Good luck and remember somebody loves you even if it's not you!

just tell her how u feel if she loves u i am sure she will understand honestly i know many people who have or are in the same situation- which isn't bad news:D Those doctors and shrinks can be there to talk to you..but thats it.and it does cost alot of money. I believe what you need is a friend, and thats what i'm here for. You can email me at SeanieD2003@yahoo.com, or chat with me on yahoo messenger- same sn. I hope i can help ya out:-D

You need to be honest with her. You are NOT dealing with the depression well and really think that you need to go talk to one of the counselors that the doctor recommended. If she doesn't listen to you - you need to tell her that you are thinking about suicide. She'll probably freak - but you need to get her butt in gear!
I know it's really hard to speak up for yourself when everything seems so bloody useless (or hard) but you REALLY need to take this step!
Good luck!

Tell her that you've been having a really hard time especially lately and if you don't see someone who you can talk to you don't know what you'll do. If your mother still doesn't she just might not realize how much pain you are in. You said she was given a list ask her where it is and if she could call somebody. Don't let her tell you there's nothing wrong with you, you know something's wrong, you're not neurotic. In the end you might have to call the recommendations by yourself. Just remember you have the strength to get through this, you've come this far! You can do this! Take responsibility for your own life pal. If there is no one nagging you to get help, like social agancies, i'm sure you won't be in any harm telling a trusted worker your thoughts. That's if you can handle that. Maybe yours thoughts on suicide are not about doing it to yourself, but just about a person doing it at all, and different ways and such. And you could be scaring yourself over nothing. You are scared that you dont trust yourself and it is fear that is ruling your life. Right, its like you have a little fear seed, (a thought) and your water it every time you think of suicide stuff and fear it, thus growing a huge poison pricker bush. The seed wouldn't have harmed you, but growing it by feeding it fear will.
Be an adult and take control of your thoughts. It will require practice for 365 days before you can say a year ago i was stressed but not now. Ask your mom to support you, and if she doesn't find a new mom! or do this on your own. Cause man i dislike your thoughts on that too!

Hi my name is Frankki. Yes Im a girl. I am 18 years old and have the best life in the world. But at age 12 I started crying a lot for no reason and wanting to sleep and be left alone. Likke you I too was scared to tell my mother I was having thoughts of suicide so I let it go until one day at 13 years old i hung myself in the bathroom. luckily my brother found me and my family got me help.I stayed in a hospital for 3 weeks and to tell you the truth it realy helped me. I have been through many medications beacause some didnt work. It just takes time. Youre mother is your mother and she will love you no matter what. Depression is a chemical inbalance. Its not your fault you have it and It is somthing that is inherited.mabey from your mother. You arn't alone. in counsiling I found 85% of the WORLD has some type of mental disability and 70% of that is depression. If you would like to talk more or any more questions my email address is fpo4sho@yahoo.com. Good Luck & God bless. You could tell you mom that you have decided to see a shrink or therapist and you just want to check it out, see what it is like. If she doesn't respond immediately, then tell a teacher or a friend of your moms about the situation. Your mom probably will not like that you shared this, but in the end, she will be glad that you did. Having another adult go with you to talk to your mom or talking to your mom on their own might help her get moving. I know that sharing this with someone else will be scary and uncomfortable, but so are your feeling, so what do you have to lose? Sometimes reaching out and pursuing a therapist is very healing in itself. I know that it was for me. It also helps you know that you want help and that you are not helpless. Good luck, I think that your discussion to see someone is really good, you’re not weird, just want someone to help, that is perfectly normal and cool. I wish you the best, and remember that you are not alone; people aren’t meant to be left alone to figure everything out. Look at babies, they are so needy and they seek out others when they are toddlers. These traits of a child should not be lost and buried as an adult. Don’t be afraid of your feelings and don’t be afraid to share them. Your mom probably tells you that you are fine because it hurts her to think that you could be that unhappy or that she possibly did something wrong her-self to cause some of the problem. It is perfectly normal for her to want you to be happy all of the time, and just not understand that everyone has a different way of dealing with things and needs. Hang in there, and remember that lots of people share your feelings and even your post helps us know that we not alone, just want to feel more love. Hope this helps, sending my love, and I’m thinking of you,

Jules

I feel for you. I went years without any professional help. I believe that you can call and make the appointment yourself and then let your mom know when it is. If that is not possible..I suggest that you go to another adult.like a school counselor.or your Pastor, Priest, or Bishop. They will be able to talk to her and get you the help that you need. You don't have to tell anyone that you have thoughts of suicide except for your Therapist or Psychologist..but they might be more willing to talk to your parent if you do tell them and ask them not to tell her. Please..don't feel ashamed for having these thoughts and feelings. You are not the only one out here that has these problems. You have to be proactive about your mental health if your mother is not willing to. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to about things..I am a great listener and I know how you feel. MOST IMPORTANT: If you are actively thinking of suicide, Answers will not help you. Call 911 or go to a hospital emergency room immediately!

You also need to address these issues with your mom and your doctor(s), as well as a psychiatrist and psychologist.

You needn't suffer in silence. Seek out help from trained professionals and you will find it. Wickedness, injustice, grief, pessimism, trouble, loneliness, fear, stress, frustration, distrust, unscrupulousness, anxiety, rage, jealousy, resentment, drug addiction, immorality, gambling, prostitution, hunger, poverty, social corruption, theft, war, struggle, violence, oppression, fear of death… News about these issues appear in the newspapers and on TV every day. The popular press devotes entire pages to these subjects, while others serialise articles about their psychological and social aspects. However, our acquaintance with these feelings is not limited solely to the press; in daily life, we, too, frequently come across such problems and, more importantly, personally experience them.
People and societies endeavour to liberate themselves from the distressing experiences, disorder and repressive social structures that have prevailed over the world for long periods. We only need to glance at ancient Greece; the Great Roman Empire; Tsarist Russia, or the so-called Age of Enlightenment, and even the 20th century-a century of misery which saw two world wars and world-wide social disasters. No matter upon which century or location you concentrate your research, the picture will not be appreciably different.
If this is the case, why haven't people succeeded in solving these problems, or at least some efforts been made to remove such social diseases from society?
People have encountered these problems in all ages, yet each time they have failed to find any solutions because the methods they employed were inappropriate. They sought various solutions, tried different political systems, laid down impracticable and totalitarian rules, stirred up revolutions or subscribed to perverted ideologies, while many others preferred to adopt an indifferent attitude and merely accepted the status quo.
In our day, people are almost numbed by this way of living. They readily believe these problems to be "facts of life." They picture a society immune to these problems as being nothing short of impossible-a dream utopia. They persistently and openly express their distaste for such a way of living, yet easily embrace it, since they think they have no other alternative.
The resolution of all these problematic issues is possible only by living by the principles of the "true religion." Only when the values of true religion prevail can a pleasant and tranquil scene replace this gloomy and unfavourable picture, which is doomed to continue so long as God's limits are ignored. To put it another way, people are enslaved by these complications as long as they avoid the values of the Qur'an. Put simply, this is the "nightmare of disbelief" and the link below for this wonderful book:

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you will find how the regulation of life by the "norms of morality" introduced by the Qur'an revealed to mankind by God will banish the "nightmare of disbelief," how pessimism, corruption and social restlessness can be eliminated from society, how the individual can surround himself with an ideal environment, what spiritual and material benefits he is likely to attain by adherence to these norms of morality are gone into in detail, and finally, that the unique alternative to all these problems is the morality of the Qur'an.
So far, many books have attempted to deal with the social and psychological problems societies face. Yet, what distinguishes this book from others is its stress on the most realistic solution. It also sincerely warns people against the troublesome future they are likely to face if they fail to resort to this solution.
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They will then happily join the ranks of those who never suffer, mentally or physically, from any of the above-mentioned complications. Around them, there will always be an abundance of favours, comfort, love, respect, peace and confidence, and moral virtues will prevail. They will know how to earn God's approval, by observing His limits and the commandments of the Qur'an. They will thus, by having faith in God, attain His mercy and at last enter Paradise.

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