My boyfriend suffers from depression.He's only 17.What do I do to help? He has insurance.Anywa. w/o parents?
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The best thing you can do is listen to him, but if you are worried about his safety, which it sounds like you are you need to tell someone whether it be his parents or someone that knows him, someone at work, you might even have to call the police if you get really worried they can help if it doesn't get any better.
Remember you need to take time out for your self too. You getting stressed out will probably make him more upset at that time. A friend of mine used to cut so I do know what you are going through. You need to know what you can do as a friend, things only a friend could help with, after all you are not a doctor or a counsellor, so you need to help as a friend. But you cutting won't make him feel anybetter it would make him feel worse. You getting stress won't help him, you cutting won't help him.
I know to him is seems like cutting makes everything, all the pain go away if only for a while, but there are serious comlpications that can arise if the cuts get infected. And then there are the scares that he will always have, my friend still has them and she hasn't cut for at least a year. But that doesn't make the emotional pain go away either.
For Him I have a few words: If you want to stop cutting you have to want it, it is possible, but you have to want it. There are so many people in the world who worry about you. My friend's counsellor suggested that she make a journal of all her feelings and thoughts everytime she wanted to cut. Also if you have some star stickers you can give your self a star for every day you don't cut. As my mum says "It takes 21 days to make something a habbit and 41 to break one." Allow yourself the time you need.
YOU CAN BEAT THIS, YOU JUST HAVE TO WANT IT, I BELIEVE IN YOU!!
Keep calm, and stay safe!
Hope this helps.
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Tell him to have heart because he will be more depressed when you get married
well im not psychologist and just took psychology in high school but i know for a fact that he should go to a doctor, and he should follow the doctors orders before anything bad happends. i know there are medications that could help this out but once again go to a doctor and talk to him, because it sound serious.
i think the best you can do is just be calm and patient with him and be with him all the way, it shows someone really cares for him
if its that serious he needs to be committed. in my personal opinion he is suffering from bipolar disorder and psycosis. next time he does it you need to call the police and they will take him to a hospital for a 72 hour psychiatric evaluation. Even though he say's he'll never do it, don't take that chance. Hopefully he can go to a psychiatrist and get on a antipsychotic such as Abilify. Take it to Him, who can take care of all
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=*=*=*=*=*= I would first off make him a doctors appointment, at 17 years old you can go to the Dr. without your parents. If he has is own insurance then everything sould be fine there. I would just see a family Physican or even a Pysican's Assistant at your local clinic. Explain the whole sitution to them, don'e leave anything out. Let them know everything. Go with him if you can so that he isn't by himself during this hard time. I would like to know why you don't want to tell his parents. Sometimes parents can be the best help. What about telling your parents!
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