Why is it so difficult to look within and see the truth when it is so easy to look outward and see lies?

Question:

I am having a hard time dealing with some of my past, as an abused child, then abused wife, now injured and recovering adult, I find it hard to look inside and see what kind of person I am, or even on a more basic level, who I am. Does anyone else feel this way, or has felt this way in the past. I could really use some insight on dealing with childhood injuries as an adult and discovering myself now. I want to be able to say "Hi, I am Crystal" instead of "Hi, I have been hurt all my life". This is a more painful process than I thought and my road to self-discovery is not straight and smooth. Anyone with some insight or advice please?

Answers:
I know that your past has been really bad. You have gone through a lot of difficulties.

But the only solution to this problem is Optimism.Whatever I am going to tell you is going to be very difficult to do but just think that working hard to improve your life is a lot better than living it in a depressed mood all the time.

Try making some hobbies which will keep your mind busy like reading books, going out with family and friends, eating whatever you like. Meet a psychologist.

My advice is that ENJOY LIFE AND CHILL OUT. Everyone feels the way you are feeling when some crisis falls but only the ones who are able to face it boldly and carry on with life happily are the tough metals.

Remember - "When the going gets tough, the tough get going"
"Only the test of fire makes fine steel."
GOOD LUCK!

Other Answers:
I also was abused by a family member from 14 to 17. It took 20 yrs. before I could talk about it. I had blocked it out. It took 2 times in a mental hospital & lots of counseling over 15 yrs. to come to grips. I am ok now. My advice to you is stay the course & do what you need for your self. The process is slow & painful but the rewards at the end are wonderfull// Peace of mind is great.

My road to self discovery may be for different reasons than yours, but it is true, it is painful. At the same time is has been one of the best times of my life but difficult to face. I too have wondered, Who am I? I started to define myself with my pain but I have learned (and still learning) that is not what defines me. As you travel through the crooked roads of self discovery you will learn who you are. You will learn what talents you have, what makes you smile and what your values are. You have already learned one important value and that is yourself. You valued your self enough to be recovering and on the road to self discovery. The more you look inward and see you, for all you are, you may discover things that are wonderful and things you didn't even know about yourself. Anything that you feel is not so great don't be hard on yourself. Nurture yourself in ways that weren't given to you. Find things that you think you might be interested in doing but always thought you couldn't. Eventually you will be able to say, "Hi, I am Crystal and the pain you have experienced will become something that has made you stronger in your journey to finding out who you are

I was wondering if you thought it would be smooth? If you look at life you will see that there isnt alot of things that run smoothley the joy of it all in case you forget is the end result

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