Do you think I need to see a shrink?

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I am having a difficult time coping with breaking it off with an ex off mine of 4years. I am dating someone that works with him and it caused bigtime drama between the three of us. my ex found out that me and the new guy were screwing and he got pissed and is now screwing a girl that always tried to get in his pants everyother time we broke up for like a week or so then got back together. i am so hurt by this, but why? i am screwing someone too. it doesn't make any sense to me. this new guy is a wonderful person with so much too offer me in the long run but right now i am so upset and hurt i just don't want to do anything but cry and be in bed. do i need to see a shrink?

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If you think you need to see a shrink, you probably do.

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No you don't need to see a psychiatrist. That is what happens when you end 1 relationship and have an immediate rebound. You're feelings for your ex are still there, you are trying to make a new relationship work, and your ex is trying to get back at you by having sex with the chic he new would screw him! What a mess. I say dint worry about your ex or the new guy. Take a break from men in general and then try a relationship with the new guy in a while. Good Luck with all that!

No, you just wanna have your cake and eat it too, you want to screw the one guy and have the other still in your back pocket, what you need is to move on and not be concerned with who your ex is screwing, after all YOU were the one who broke it off, and of all things started screwing someone he knows AND works with.

Perhaps it would help if you acknowledged that it is not just 'screwing;' as your heart knows, there is a spiritual component to a sexual relationship. Since you speak of it so casually, I am assuming that you had been sexual with your ex for some (if not a substantial portion) of that 4 years; if that is incorrect, then the rest of this may not seem as likely to you.

In that time, your soul had become intertwined with his, and that is a tie not easily broken. So, you are going through the pains of separating your soul from his, just as if you were going through a divorce. The fact that he is now sexual with someone else is just another thing that is pulling on that spiritual knot that is coming (though not yet completely) undone. The difference is that it is something that you have no control over; so you notice it more, just as it feels different when someone else pulls an adhesive bandage off your skin than it does when you pull it yourself.

So, do you need to see a shrink? Depends upon whether any of what I said makes any sense to you. If it did, then perhaps what you really need is just a spiritual advisor. Do you have a church? If you don't get what I'm saying, or don't have a spiritual mentor to turn to, then perhaps counseling would help you come to terms with why it is that you are so affected.

Besides, all I know is that one paragraph about you: Yoy could easily have deeper issues that will only come to the surface under the guidance of a professional. Good luck.

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