How can I get rid of thoughts of other women?
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try a good psycho-therapist , they usually marriage counsellors & similar ...
i do not mean a psychiatrist
this will give u a better idea
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychotherapy
yes, it is an uncommon profession ... but since u'r honestly seeking help, u gotta take some pains of finding one around ..
try asking local marriage councellor ... sure they can guide u 2 someone good
it's just a question of gettin it outta u'r system
> just somethin at back of u'r mind, some mental blocks or obsessions .. somethin
try this
http://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/
>> all the very best & my sincere wishes ..
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I think you should see a psychologist.
He / she might be able to help.
Its the only way now.
take up being gay
dude face it you're a guy it's natural chemistry
society has but the rules out no biology
You really might have a sexual addiction, or OCD (obssessive compulsive disorder). You can get treatment for it. Make an appt. with a counselor and have an honest discussion. Don't give up hope.
I love the way you love you wife! It's totally sweet! I hope I marry a man that doesn't love me just for sex one day! You are amazing but I can't help you! I don't know what it's like to be married!
My answer is this: "Sex may perpetuate the species but it is love that perpetuates the soul." It is something I wrote not so long ago.
It is not uncommon to fantasize and actually, there's nothing wrong with it unless you put some of these fantasies into action.
If you love your wife that much, then please, by all means, try to put her forefront in reality and in time, your fantasies will include her more often than not....
Why doesn't your wife turn you on? "some men' after their wives have a baby look at them as a mother and I guess they relate the word" mother" to their own mother.Some have even refused to touch their wives period after they have a baby! you might need counseling!
ok i guess u see a doctor regarding this first.
But my advise is that maybe u accept your desire and dont tell your wife
It's ok to have thhis type of fantasies of other women....which men don't?Try play roles with your wife,get her into it.Tell her about your fantasies on the roles each of you can play...If she loves you enough ,she will.Beside she can read minds too. wow!
hello ..while at a distance i see that you and your wife have so much of each other that you have lost the charm of being together, give each other some space, try being away from eachother, send each other love notes or sexual notes about what you want to do when u get home with her, ask her to not show you so much flesh. this will keep u wanting.
Bring a spark to ur relation think of ur wife as a new girlfriend everyday, do things that will surprise her, try to do away with the thoughts of other girls, make a porn starring both of u ll and mastubate to that.
Show that you love your wife by taking her name when u make love to her ...taht way u ll stay concentrated to ur wife.
i think it is some kind of addiction, so it will be very hard for you to get rid of it. The best thing that you can do is to talk to your wife and let her understand your situation, if your wife loves you she will be very patient with you and try to always be with you when temptation creeps in, But the best thing that you can do is to consult a psychologist, i am not saying that you are sick but the psychologist are equipped with knowledge how to avoid what you are feeling. There are also some treatment centers where you can attend talks and be with people who has the same problem as you , then you will understand more what you are feeling. Maybe it is also good that you and your wife will attend marriage counseling. I hope that you find a way to heal so you will continue to have a loving relationship with your wife.
All your feelings, behaviour voice down to your thoughts and what suggestions you have been giving yourself. What are you thinking when you see a sexy woman? How you feel. What you want to do? Maybe you like to chat with me more about it at msn: trecillia@hotmail.com or trecilia@yahoo.com.sg
So what, your not Gay, your a man!
we all get turned on by women that`s what they do.....
they wear makeup, sexy clothes, high heels.
Women are good at making you look at them.
But its ok to look but don`t let it go any further.
Try some sex games with your wife, join a swingers party
enjoy your life, your not going to be here forever.
Good Luck.
Please tell your wife what you likes and if she is not willing to give you as you likes, please go to see a psychologist and join some councillings also regarding the human behavior and the Indian culture, this is not a measure problem and may be curable within a short time if you have willing to cure this problem.
Always understand the problems creating after these thinking consider if your wife likes someone else then what you feels about her, the same thing works on your wife's feelings also, so give your wife maximum love and always think about her only.
Avoiding discussion about mental illness, I suspect that your situation is not all that unusual or perverse. How about talking to your wife about ways to spice up your sex life with games, role playing, toys, etc. This may sound gross to you, but, hey, a lot of people do it and find solutions.
Best of luck in any case.
This is sometimes a common problem with married guys, familiarity often takes away the pleasure of making love to your partner (I am sure there would be a few women that encounter this problem too). I would also suggest that you seek counseling for this if it is affecting you and your marriage. Your wife is not a mind reader! she can tell what is going on in your mind by your actions during lovemaking. How much do you touch your wife? do you look into her eyes during lovemaking? how often do you kiss your wife during lovemaking? If the answer to these questions is very little or not at all then that is why she knows.
Well, the devil made you do it. Seriously, he puts it out there all the time...in a marriage, it is of course common that people get 'used' to each other..most women, as you admit, know this about their husbands..it is hurtful, and most men would die if they even thought that their wives were fantasizing about other men to make love to them...So, just be aware that it is satan trying to destroy your marriage, just like he is doing to everyone. It takes a lot to be strong in this day and age, and you better just pray to God to give you strength, before you end up losing your lovely wife. I have no doubts that you adore her...and the porn is the worse..it is satan trying to destroy you my friend, how strong are you really? be aware of who your real enemy is and start praying ..good luck..don't fall for his trap
Look dude, you have got to understand that thoughts of being with other women is pretty darn normal! I don't know about the porn thing, some say its bad, but others say its just fantacy. If you masturbate then welcome to the club, as that too is normal! Having feelings is one thing, but acting on them is another. You will find that guilt will not allow you to act on your feelings. Your wife shouldn't feel threatened by you looking at other women, all guys do this! You should tell your wife, "if you wanted a boss, you would have married your boss" and she just needs to get over it. You married her, and that should be proof enough that you love her and no one else. She needs to go to therapy and find out what her issues truly are. The guilt you are feeling is guilt that she is laying on you, and this is wrong on her part. She don't trust you, and she is using this to back up her own fears. Is she looking for a reason to blame your miseries on? Yes! We have been married for 32 years, and we love each other, and I don't think we made it this far by not trusting each other. I think if you do your own investigating you will find that she too has something she is hiding from you! You can't tell me that she don't have fantacies about some hot guys too. Remember this; a marriage is based on love and trust. Yu and her better find a way to put the flame back into your marriage and do it now, or you two are headed for trouble. What would she say if you put up a swimsuit calendar in the garage? If she feels threatened by this, then she has issues she needs to work out right away. There is a certain part of you that she will never be able to control, and the sooner she realizes it the better off you are going to be. Having feelings is normal, acting on them is another issue. If you are true to her, then she should have a little faith in your marriage. Just because you look does NOT mean you are going to go out and have an affair! 100% of the time, if someone is doing the accusing, they are the one doing the cheating! The spell check is not working so disreguard the spelling.
you did not say how old you are or how long you have been married. you may be going thru a mid-life crisis if you are in the age range. i would suggest seeking some professional help/or if you have a minister or priest sitting down and talking about the feelings you are having from there you can sort out these conflicting feelings you are having. plus it will probally help your relationship with your wife. take care and good luck!
oh, really. and why should i care?
the lilies of the valley
the beauty .......
that is women
why fight reality.....
the thing that attracted you
to the wife in the first place!
Was!?, go back remember
Tell her your thoughts, and what you feel....
the truth hurts sometime, reality bite's
but the truth will set you FREE!!
intuition,,,,,,,work together you'll get what you need
I have read your question and also the explanatory note thereunder . You are attracted by other women and girls because you must have been giving them encouragement by seeing or by your gestures and smiles. It is an admitted fact that women is weakness of men. Even very gentle and pouis men submit before women. It is no exception with you either. Today the female dress themselves with so designed and sext dresses so as to depict each and every part to other persons to arouse their sex. Sex is an instict and no person is immune to this instnct. The problem with your wife is also not uncommon. Each housewife knows as to what is good and what is bad for her husband. She cannot consume and digest other woman in the private relationship with her husband. In my opinion you should not take it very seriously. You should give proper attention and love to your wife. Do sex with her and have love and care with your kids. In nut shell, I advise you to very kindly make your wife understand that you love her passionately and there is no other woman in her place in your mind.
It is the way of the world to believe in the cultural ways and then see how they become false. Marriage is for children and mortgages so stick to it. Look up spirit-wife on line to find the relief you seek. Cheers.
Yeh dude, its normal, get over it. All men think about other women whether they admit it or not. All men masturbate whether they admit or not. Women do the same thing, they look at other men and masturbate too. After being married for a while, there is that usual feeling of things getting boring. You get used to each other, you've had sex like 10,000 times in every different position. But as time goes by, the excitement fades, and you end up having sex in the same position, maybe only at night while the kids are asleep. It loses its spontaneity and becomes kinda boring. Its only natural to fantasize about how things could be different. You are a guy and you are gonna look at other women, it doesn't mean you're gonna go out and screw 'em. LOL
How to solve your problem? Hmmmm....I don't think there is any way to solve it. You can DEAL with it in many ways.
The suggestion about role-playing and having some sex games could help. Spending some time apart could help. Seeking couples counseling could help. I don't think there's anything wrong with porn either. Maybe you and your wife could watch it together? Anything to spice up your sex life could help. Hey, maybe having a 3-some could help. Depends on what you and your wife are comfortable with. I know plenty of couples that do have open sexual relationships. They can go have sex with whoever they want as long as come home to each other. Others wouldn't dream of doing such a thing, which is how I'm guessing your wife would feel. Since guys aren't mind readers, communication is a big problem for most guys. We don't like to talk and share our true feelings because sometimes we fear that the truth may upset the other person. If you could sit down and discuss your inner thoughts without fear of upsetting the other, that could really help. Maybe thats why sitting down with counselor could help.
But getting the thoughts of other women out of your head will probably never happen. Think of it like window shopping, you can look all you want, but you'll never buy it. Theres nothing wrong with that at all.
Oh yeh, you didn't ask for it by smiling at some other woman. Thats the stupidest thing I ever heard.
It sounds like you might have an addiction. I recommend going to see a therapist.
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