How should I react when my 91 year old mom thinks that "people" are tapping on walls or spying on her?
Question:
We have since moved and now it's started up again. She sees people sitting in their cars all night watching her bedroom window (I tried to explain that its the shape of the vehicles headrests)or retaliating for times when I would hang a picture on the wall (they are banging and walking heavy on the floor to get back at us for a few nail taps in the middle of the day).
She is quite healthy in spite of this behavior. She may have some good years left. I prefer not to request medication I hear it would make her groggy.
Do I just agree with her?
Answers:
No say to her it may seem like that to her but that is just a symptom of her illness like cancer victims often loose their hair, people with strep get a sore throat and so on. Say you can not see or hear anything and she is just imagining it I suppose. But be nice and do not make it a big deal.
Other Answers:
try changing the subject, or agreeing. you should try to make the most of the time you spend with her. don't waste it by getting frustrated or annoyed with her. just understand that this is part of her aging process.
Just let her talk. She is old and her mind is old too. Unless she is hurting herself or others leave it alone and just assure her that it will be ok. Her eyesight mihgt not be really good so she might think she is seeing these things but isnt. Her senses are impaired that is apart of old age.
It is very hard when you see a person you love in this condition. My grandmother got kind of paranoid as well. If we would disagree with her and try to tell her that no one was stealing anything from her, she became more agitated so I made EVERYONE swear to not to argue with her, but simply listen to her and be patient, speak softly and help her locate her lost items. Enjoy the time you have with her and make sure the time she has left with you in this world is as peaceful as possible.
my grandma suffered from dementia but she thought she was talking to jesus! so it wasn't scary for her but you may want to ask a doctor what to do. until then just let her know that those people will be caught sooner or later and that you will protect her from any of them maybe give her a charm or something and tell her that it was blessed by a religious person and that it will protect her from harm. just an idea.
go check it out u know, to make her feel better but you cant blame her shes 91 and its a sickness in sum cases you should agree with her though don't worry you'll think of something
Poor soul. Sometimes you can come up with a way of getting her to "cure" the problem by wrapping foil around a door knob or tying red yarn to it. It's an irrational solution to an irrational problem. Tell her you talked to the people and they are moving away. Sadly, it will probably get worse.
Oh my gosh! my grandmother is like that .. someitmes she sees like the fridge as a man wearing a white coat?!?!?! me n my mom just tell her that its just her imagination so that she doesnt worry n stuff .. also she gtes the feeling that there are othe rppl on the house .. i think you shuld just maek sure she feels safe ..
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