I need help with some "love" advice. Long story.?

Question: First off I used to date this woman for 3 years or so and we got to the point we hated each other and would fight constantly. Well eventually it lead to her being unfaithful(don't blame her totally it's half my fault). Anyway got back together and we had a child together. I lost my license so I can't drive and she totalled her car so she doesn't have one(live separatly also about 20 miles away). I didn't put my best effort into being a father(should have saw my kid more)and the last 2-3 weeks I have been thinking about both of them a lot and was debating about them moving in with me. We used to talk everyday but not recently. This is when I thought about both of them more.Well I called the woman and we talked and I asked her how are things. Well she lied and I knew it so then she comes out and states she has a new boyfriend - Ironic 3 weeks ago. Well we hated each other but she was making hints about "us" for like 2 months but I pushed her away for so long she found someone else.

Answers:
just tell her..and let HER decide what to do. let her know u respect her decision..it's not like ur forcing or stealing her away from that man, you are telling her how YOu feel and allowing her to choose one way or another. but u have to Respect her decision, and so does she. she can't keep u around while still with her current boyfriend. so be strong, and ready for the worst, but hoping for the best (u getting back together, trying again, and to be the best dad and husband u can be).

remember, no matter how much u mess up yesterday, u can always change things tomorrow. u know?? :) have faith in that, and rejoice in that. even if u are not christian (which i am, and recently learned Romans 5-8 in which i feel so much Freedom from understanding that passage)..u can still make changes in your life to Always seek what is Good, Positive, Healthy, AND Happy in your life, and not punish yourself for the past mistakes. life goes on, and i'ts your choice to push forward and seek what is Awesome and Wonderful, or to wallow around in sadness and depression. however, u don't sound like that type to me, in fact it is wonderful that u understand that she may be happy with this other guy, and u are not angry! and u are admitting that u have also made mistakes. that is awesome! so now the next step is to work on YOU, make sure u are the best Person, Father, Boyfriend, eventually Husband....and that will make you a Great Addition to Any relationship..... so do that for yourself, and for your partner, hopefully the mother of your children. :) u can make changes to your life, u just have to try, and keep positive, healthy things around you. take care, and good luck!

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just tell her..... its as easy as that if she says no atleast you will feel better about finally telling her the truth

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