My problem is i feel nervouse talking to people and i feel shy to make proper eye contact. Advise me please..?
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Nobody is better than you, they may have more money, however you are you. they are they
Carry your head high
Look ahead, not down, when walking.
Try talking to yourself in a mirror
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You must be a Pisces
you shall overcome
hmm, I'm similar.
You might have Social Anxiety.
It sounds like you may have Social Anxiety
maybe a phobia . Talk to a counselor .
Take an acting class
You could have socail anxiety. I do and do the same thing. I can't look at people when I talk to them. I try to catch myself and look at them, but I look away again a few seconds later. I'm always nervous when talking to people, too.
try to forget your surroundings, and build confidence in yourselves.
no one is greater than you. remember. you are the unique personality which no one would have... buildd confidence.
Try talking to a therapist. It helps. You might have social anxiety disorder and just need to work it out.
If it makes you feel any better I don't socialize much at all because I'm so damn anti-social. The doctor at SSI said that she thinks I may be skitzoeffective. I love most of my friends but when it comes to visiting them I only think about it.
well most people can tell by your body language that u r uncomfortable.....you r almost 30 and should be over the awkward stage. just have fun and let life take its course.
Participate in Group Discussions.Keep talking to friends
hey man find something in life that motivates you...i basically sat down a couple night and figured out what i actually cared about...not waht others think i should....and the i let everything else go and quit caring so much about it all... and it seemed to help me relax more and be less tense at times. itll come quicker and easier if your just yourself
You might want to consult a physician or psychiatrist. It may be some type of anxiety disorder, especially since you say you feel uncomfortable even around friends and family.
go spend some time with a counsellor - mingle with people - talk free with men n women - mingle with neighbours - meet more people - its just a feeling -
You could go to some lectures on being ascertive. You may also need to seek therapy, or some type of anti-anxiety. Just my thoughts.
Start small. Find one person you can really open up and talk to.
Realize that people are not as judgmental as you think.
Don't worry so much about what people think about you.
Be yourself... you are a good, smart person.
Have some confidence.
If this problem persists, see a doctor, you could have a social anxiety disorder. There are drugs that can help you.
Good Luck.
Well I had the same problem. What helped me was getting the idea in my head that I was better then the person I was talking to. Now I didnt openly express this thought, but it did help me make eye contact with them. I still am shy around first talking to people but once I see them stairing into my eyes I enter the thought that I'm better then them and I can hold their stare. And I've found that this is the best way to start off a conversation with someone knew until you get to know them better. It holds some respect and some self-esteem.
I have the same problem. Mine came from years of abuse when small. Just take small steps try to look sometimes it gets easier, then again it seems hard. I guess we may just have to live with it.
I'D SUGGEST YOU THINK BACK ON YOUR PAST TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF
you must practice eye contact...pick females you find attractive...look at them and wait for them to look back-when they DO you MUST hold your gaze until they look away-they WILL look away...keep this up until you feel more confident.
Eye contact is the best way to establish DOMINANCE in a first meeting. After you feel you can acheieve this then it's time to start practicing TALKING...you can do it.
i do the same thing except i have good days and bad days with it
i get really nervous i got the pills called hyland nerves tonic
the work really well for me i think the problem is anxiety
you can
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You should talk to a therapist. He or she could give you advice based more specifically on your situation.
If you feel that it's not a good solution, then try looking for positive reactions from the people you communicate with. Humans tend to remember all of the negative reactions received from people. Make direct eye contact with someone (even if it's hard) and smile. Chances are they'll smile back and you won't see anything unfriendly in their face. Remember that and not anything you view as negative.
I understand what you're saying, but eye contact is extremely important when dealing with people. Try to break yourself in slowly by 'practicing' on people that you aren't intimidated by, like a family member or a close friend. Just make eye contact for a couple of seconds at a time at first, then gradually increase the time. Not too long though, because that can get uncomfortable as well. In normal conversation, people make eye contact, then look away, make eye contact, look away. You'll get the hang of it eventually I'm sure. Good Luck!
first step is to learn how to spell nervous...
second try to chat with friends....
read a lot and exercise your interpersonal skills...
overcoming this struggle means a lot of time but eventually you will overcome this...
Ohh! I thought that I was the only one, a few years back I was in the same situation, I was feeling confues in social meeting etc
and was always nervous. Look what you gotta do.
Look around you, there must be someone that wants to help you, get on with him, talk to him a lot, have long discussions with him, on every single topic you can, try to express yourself to him, look at his face first, dont try to stare in eyes initially, just talk to the face, when you feel OK you will be all fine.
Don't try too hard - it's not all that important. Look at them while you talk and then glance away as if thinking while they talk. it will seem to be an idiosyncrasy of yours and not appear offensive or odd. Actually you will note that many actors who are naturally shy use similar techniques. Think of yourself as secretly acting while you are talking to others..
I used to be really shy - probably because I was home-schooled for a while. When I went to a high school of only 300 people it seemed big and I had trouble deciding if I should make eye contact with people in the halls. The best ways I found to get over it were:
1. Talk more around people you are comfortable with, kind of as practice for talking to other people.
2. Think more about how other people feel than about how you feel. for example, of course you should meet people's eyes in the hall, but even more than that you should say hi or smile at everyone you because you would like it if they smiled or said hi to you.
3. Help out and befriend other shy people or people who are new to a group. It will make you feel more confident if you help someone who needs help even more than you do.
4. Just make yourself get out there and do it. Be the first to introduce yourself when you're meeting a group of new people, volunteer to answer a question in class, whatever. You'll feel like it takes all the courage you have at first, but eventually it will start to feel natural.
Hi. Try not to think about your discomfort. Focus on whatever the person is saying to you - and if necessary don't look them directly in the eye - watch their mouth and occasionally look at their eyes so they know you're paying attention. I found myself doing the same thing, and now I just make a point of not thinking about me or how I may be coming across to the other person. Try and just relax a bit more. (This advice is based on you being an honest person, if the conversations you're having are making you uncomfortable and cause you to fib - then that's a whole other issue.) Good luck and chin up!
Read this book " How to Have Confidence and Power in Dealing with People" by Les Giblin.... It will really help you in every end of your life.... I promise!
Stop struggling so hard. Focus on the other person and not on your discomfort. You can use the eye contact a few moments at a time, not constantly. At your age you will not change overnight so relax.
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