Daughter Suicidal?
Question:
It has now come back really suddenly, i have just been listening to her crying and saying she wants to die, when she last had this problem she was sent to a counsellor, she found this no help at all due to the time between appointments she sunk back down. The doctor wont put her on medication..and i am worried she will start self-harming again..well for all i know she already has.
I dont like talking to her about it because she also has mild paranoia and starts feeling watched all the time, along with the feeling that the whole family thinks she fakes everything.
Does anypone have any suggestions of what i can do?
Answers:
I am so sorry about this; I wish I could have done something, anything to help. I was going to suggest that taking her to her school counselor would help. But right now, I guess the only thing I can tell you is this.
I know you can't help but be sad about this whole thing. Which you have every right to. But on the other hand, if it helps, try thinking this.
Your daughter, as strong as you may have thought she was, or hoped she would be. Had this horrible black hole inside her, pulling her down every minute of the day, she was in pain, so much pain. She only wanted to be happy, even if it was for a second, but the black hole had already taken over. She was suffering, and the only thing that could stop it, was if she ended it.
So just think about it this way, her soul is free now, the pain is gone. She didn't do this, out of hatred, she did this, out of love. She loves you very much, but only now can she breathe.
Other Answers:
get a different doctor
Take her to another doctor who will give her meds for depression/anxiety. Also look into counselling.
i only have one suggestion: dont put her on anti-depressants. teens are likely to commit suicide when they take these types of medication
There is a great web site called cyc-net.org. If you type your question just like you have here you have a whole lot of qualified people answering your question. It is the international child and youth care organization. So you have people all over the world who may be able to help you. Hope this helps.
You need to seek out a mental-health professional and tell that person about your dauhter's suicidal ideations. I don't know what state you live in, but you may, on the doctor's recommendation, have the right to have your daughter institutionalized. And as horrific as that sounds, if she's truly a danger to herself, it would likely be the best thing you could do for her. If you think that something might be imminent, call 911.
Whatever you do, do it right away, okay?
Before you suggest medication, you guys need to get her to a psychiatrist/psychologist to get to the bottom of this. Why is she depressed? Is this something hereditary or is she having problems that she's not comfortable talking to you guys about? Is she on drugs? You cannot just treat the fruit you have to get to the root.
She should be hospitalized.
Please explain your daughter that the life is a precious gift of God and one has no rights to spoil it. Thinking and committing is a social crime. If, there are difficulties in life, they can be solved by many methods such as going for Yoga, meditation and positive thinking.
Think others difficulties to overcome your sorrow.
What brings on the depression? Was she assulted,bad relationships, death in the family,or a friend? Does anyone know what the real underlying problem is? You or herself won't be able to find a decent resolution to this until someone knows exactly what the cause is. Meds can work, but should never be forever. Try talking to a hotline or organization that deals with teens. At least see if you can get someone or something involved with your interests in mind.
15 is a though age.I was there and been thru everything diferent reasons offcourse.
My advice: spend more time with her,go to a walk toghether,talk to her about boys,buy her something she likes.Doctors and therapysts and medication could be usefull (even thoug I doubt it) but they can never give a depresed person what she realy needs,a hug a feeling of protection.Show her that you love her and try to make her talk about her problems,do not judge her for them be pacient and if you are corecting her in any way do it calmly and don't show totaly different point of views from her.Try to get into her world and be there for her.
You could be best friends but that involves some work from you and in the stiuation she is I really think you should do this.
take it one step at a tinme,watch a movie toghether.Depresion doesn't come out of nothing so she has a reason for it but she couldn't tell it to you for diferent reasons.I treid suicide and my mother caught me be we never got to talk about it,you know what I thought? that she didn't cared!
The best way out of this is thru comunication,trust and a healty relathionship between you and her,the doctors can't,if you truely want to you will be able to change everything.Good luck.
If you take your daughter to a psychologist, they cannot legally prescribe medication. Only psychiatrists can prescribe. If you are seriously worried about your daughter, take her to the nearest hospital. They will have a psychiatrist on call who can talk to her and possibly admit her or give her a prescription to help regulate her moods. Do it NOW.
From someone who's been there I'd say that you need to seriously get her professional help. It is vital that you do this. You need to talk to the doctor and get a refferal to have her see a counselor or psychiatrist or you need to call your local crisis hotline and get her into the hospital if you feel that is necessary. Personally with a suicidal person who is not responding to your efforts to help them and especially as a loving parent you need to action and get her into a hospital for an intial evaluation and if necessary an extended hospital stay. As far the counseling goes, you can set appointments to be once a week or even closer together then that in most counseling centers. Since she had a counselor in the past who knows her situation you can have that counselor refer her to the crisis center for an extended hospital stay. Hospitalization is the best thing for her in my opinion, it made be hard for her to go through it but she needs to so that she can get better. The sooner that you get her into a hospital the less chance that she will hurt herself again. Some anti depressant medications do make teens suicidal. Some of these include paxil and zoloft and others as well which I'm not sure of right now. Medication is a must by since anti depressants work with certain body chemistrys she needs to see a doctor and the one that works for her. This make take a while to find the right one but it is much better then not be medicated at all. As far as her feeling watched goes I will say that in a hospital a suicidal person is never left alone for obvious reasons but there are psychiatrists in the hospital who can help her deal with the paranoia. This is an issue that cannot be taken lightly, it is a very serious and life threatning issue so the family thinking that she is faking it doesn't help anything, they need to take her seriously because sadly it may be too late for her once they do realize that this is serious and she is not faking it. A person who hurts themselves and talks of wanting to die is certainly not faking it. Please seriously consider everything that i've told you it will help save your daughter from hurting herself again and it will ultimately save her life. I've been where your daughter is and I have been hospitalized so everything I'm telling you is from my experiences. I will pray for her. If you need anything else feel free to email me at zack86_16646@yahoo.com. Good luck!
Please email me A.S.A.P. I went through the exact same thing at 14. I now am almost finished my masters in psychology. I have much to say to help you. My email is prettyinpunkk@aol.com. I think I can help you a great deal, because some of the other answers aren't going to help you.
Lauren
Find out if she is sexually active I know this may not be the answer you're looking for but a lot of time teenage girls become depressed and allow boys even men to abuse them and then because of this they become suicidal. If you're scared on how to approach this just tell her that you are concerned about her periods and that birth control would help regulate them, at that point they will give her a pap and ensure that she is okay also some types of birth control can help even out hormones and this may be all that she needs.
Hi, I am 17, year old. I am going through the same thing your daughter is going through. I have been going through it since I was 12. It's a very hard thing to go through too. I am a manic depressive (Bi-polar), but most of the time I am in a depressed mood. I have been a Self injurer for about 6 years and I am still doing it. Advice. Your daughter NEEDS counseling. You might want to consider putting her in a hospital for the mentally ill, i don't mean this to be mean, but long term treatment is always best for a person that is mutillating themsellves and is depressed and suicidal. You don't have to leave her in there forever, just for about 2 weeks to a month. She needs to learn that life is precious and nothing is worth taking her life over. And in a hospital they can keep a 24 hour watch on her so she wont do anything stupid. Please Email me, I would like to be of some help..
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Personal experience
there is apossibiltiy of bipolar or schizofrenia.she needs a good doctor.keep an eye on her.i also have bipolar 1 i get alot of depressed moods with mixed states
You have to trust what she tells you in order for her to get help.
If you don't believe what she says and think she's paranoia, she will not tell you again, she'll keep it to herself.
I was suspecting that she has been haunted by some unseen spirits in your house. If this is the case, medications doesn't help. Counselling doesn't help. Prayer helps.
I am so sorry I didnt find this question sooner. I could have written some of this post myself, about my own daughter. My deepest condolences . prayers for you and your family.
i'm so sorry i know at this point can take the pain/sorrow
you must be feeling. but on the other side you did every-
thing you could possibly do with the resources you had to work with.you are in my prayers and thoughts dear! take care!
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I am sooo sorry to hear about your loss, I can't possibly imagine the horror you are going through. I have children of my own and I can't imagine losing one of them in any way, especially in such a horrible way like this. I think that you fell through a crack and no one would listen to you and that is awful. I think you have been dealt an awful fate, and again I am so sorry. I think our society over looks teens so much. I remember being a teen, and it was so hard. It is so much drama. They have so much to deal with, and parents we tend to forget that with our own busy lives. And our "real" problems. With their problems are real to them too, just as real as our. They are just in a different way. We have to stop dismissing these teens. And, telling them when you grow up you'll understand more. I am not blaming you sweety by no means. I am blaming society. Most of society think of teens as useless beings. They are hear to mess up, to make mistakes, and that that is the worst phase in growing up. Well it is the hardest. Think of all the physical and emotional changes they go through. My parents dismissed me. They thought my feelings weren't "real". They made fun of my feelings. And, to this very day I remember being "in-love" as a teen. True, it isn't the type of love I have for my husband by far. But, it was love. It was an emotion. And, it hurt like hell to have it gone when my heart got broken over relationships back then. Or when friends weren't friends anymore. Or when I failed a test. They have the same feelings we do, but just lack the experience to deal with them. I am so sorry you lost your baby. I know in your eyes she will always be your baby. I look at my 3 daughters everday. And, I can still see traces of that person I gave birth too. I hope you can find peace, I am sure you won't never heal completely. But, I hope you find ways to come to terms with your angel's death.
Talking with her as her friend is the best medicine.
Try to think:why is she like this?why does she want to die?Is there something she needs?After that ,you can figure out the problem she has.If that failed then take her to a psychiatrist not a doctor and he will surely solve this problem.
###I want to tall something me myself I want to die but then I realize that I have everything and god has given me everything I wanted:hands,eyes,brain ,house ,good parents and at last a heart which I follow.
thank you,
Hussein
i sorry.you are in my prayers.
i pray that she will be alright.try to cheer her up show her life make her feel special.as long as she knows she is loved and this to shall pass it is gonna be alright
smile
I cant imagin what you are going through.however I did want to tell you that I am so sorry. May God be with you. You and your family are in my prayers.
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