Do I have a personality disorder?

Question: I love my husband, but like in every marriage, there are ups and downs. What concerns me is that sometimes, without any reason, I remember something that happened years ago and I get mad or sad. This week I remembered something that he did 6 years ago and now I am convinced that he was having an affair. I didn’t know back them, but it’s as if I opened my eyes now. Therefore, I sent him an e-mail (he is in another state) and told him that I cannot forgive him. The scene is there in my mind day and night. I feel like I hate him and told him that we must stop communicating. I am almost sure that in one more week I will see that scene as, “Come on. He was just giving her a ride.” But then in another week, I will want to ask him for a divorce. What is causing these cycles in my life? How is possible that some days the thoughts hurt me, but days later the same thoughts don’t affect me at all?

Answers:
Don't worry too much about how to label the problem. It sounds like a systems-level problem and not one that you alone are responsible for creating or solving. This is a relationship issue and would probably be best explored in couples therapy. By the sounds of it, this might even be something that could be dramatically helped in just a handful of sessions (maybe 3-5). Personality disorders dominate a person's entire life and personality. As a rule, all or almost all relationships are impacted, as well as job and school functioning. If this problem you describe is relatively isolated to your marriage, and your marriage is otherwise relatively calm and satisfying, it's very doubtful that you suffer from a personality disorder. We all have traits that can, at various times, seem personality disorder-like. Only if the traits are severe enough to impair functioning and persist across many different life circumstances, would there be a possibility of a personality disorder.

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