How can I fill the hole in my life i just want to be loved by some1?
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First of all let me suggest you not even think about having a baby. Not because you're so young but because you want one for the worst possible reason.
You need to learn to love yourself before anyone else can learn to love you. I'm not saying that's easy. I've over 50, and have been struggling with it all my life. I think I'm there- if I haven't burned all the bridges by now.
And let me clarify, learning to love yourself doesn't mean you just go out and act all narcissistic (self-centered, spoiled) like some people seem to think when they hear that.
I find it helps to do things that help others or improve the world in some way. When I do good for others I feel good about myself. Get involved with life- go places, do things. Find a way to make a difference. (volunteer work- visit your grandparent they'll appreciate it) Walk in the forest and appreciate nature. Look for what beauty there is in the world. It's easy to see what's wrong with the world, but there's still much to appreciate if you expand your consciousness and become aware.
Above all don't compare yourself or your situation with others around you.
Do search and find the words to the poem, Desiderata. It will help you understand. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't take half a century to get to know yourself and appreciate life, like I have.
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Hi , how about feeling the void with God : ) works for me . Or maybe finding things other than people , like activities or things you enjoy . Good luck to ya !
The best place to find true love is through Christ Jesus. He is the only one who can truely fill you. PLEASE don't continue to think that way!! What if you end up screwing up BOTH of your lives?! Concentrate on your own happiness before you can even THINK of someone else's, LET ALONE A NEW BABY!!
I think everyone feels that way around that age. I remember getting depressed a lot at 16, but when I got to around 20 I joined the military and didn't have time to think that way lol. Just hang in there.
I know how u feel and it will go away. But first u have to figure out y that hole is there. How'd it get there? Until u find that out u should just keep ur self busy with small project type things.
Join a sports team. Or better yet get a job volunteering in a hospital, like a candystriper, or if you can do it at 15 in a children's mental home. Those kids will love you to the point of breaking your heart. I know because I did it in college. A baby is not the answer! You would be asking that baby to fill in the place of an adult, and that baby is the one who needs to be loved! I used to feel the same way that you are feeling right now! Just concentrate on your life right now..learn to love yourself. Get some great friends that you can just talk to and go out with! If you're anything like me, than you have a hard life right now. I'm telling you that it will get better!
If you bring a baby into this world, just so that you can have someone love you.than you are more selfish than you think! And it'll be harder for you to find a bf with a baby at home. Because you won't be able to do the things that teenagers are suppost to do..dances, parties, or whatever! You'll regret it in the long run!
Invest in you right now. I applaud you for seeking medication and therapy but a baby is a 18 year commitment. I think you should develop who you are and want to become. Join a club after school or a book discussion group or take karate or pottery at a local business. Think about college, (education courses involve children and that will be helpful for when you do become a parent)and think about how to fix your hair and make-up and different looks you can create with your wardrobe. You won't have time for yourself when you become a mom..I know, I'm a mom and even though my kids are 12 and 9 there's very little time I get to spend on myself. My time is coming around again.but I'd hate to see you give up your teen age time to do something that can certainly wait. Waiting will make you a better person, a better mother, and once you do have a child, there's no turning back. Have a baby isnt going to solve your emotion of wanting to be love you may want to find another way to deal with your emotion buy a pet or something or you can play sport get your mind off of wanting a baby
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