A serious question for those who really care to help?
Question:
I put this question under mental health because I know it is certainly strange for me to have this problem. See, my 12 year old brother (I'm 18) gets sick a lot and when he does, he gets a long-lasting, loud, frequent cough. Hearing that same noise repeated over and over for that many years has resulted in me being EXTREMELY irritated by it. I mean I can't handle it at all. I can't go out in public with him when he's sick because I know I'll make a scene. Sometimes there's just no escape. It has truly ruined my life for too long. I know it is so bizarre for me to be overly bothered by this bodily function, but I really can't help it. I can't afford therapy nor am I ready to submit to that right now. I need some comforting words or advice. Thanks.
Answers:
Hey there,
Let me start off by saying I don't think you're "crazy". I would suspect that your reaction to you're brother's cough isn't really about the noise at all. I think that maybe you have some unresolved issues about your brother and his illness and this is how it's playing out. Have you dealt with the fact that he's sick, maybe it hurts too much to think about? Could you be jealous of the attention that his sickness gets? I'm not judging at all when I say this. A lot of times when we have unresolved issues they come out in other ways. I don't think its really the cough that's the issue here. I think there is something else about the situation that is bothering you and needs attention. It's hard to deal with something like that without any type of counseling or therapy but maybe you should try talking to someone close to you about it and see if that helps. A book that you might relate to is "My Sister's Keeper" by Jodi Picoult. Might be worth picking up sometime. Sorry to hear your bro is sick and best of luck...
-F
Other Answers:
My only advice to you is don't have kids of your own because you will never survive.
I can relate to what you're going through, I have the exact same problem with my younger sister (I'm 24, she's 16). There is really nothing you can do except learn to deal with it. I made the mistake of getting mad at her for it, and now I know she goes crazy trying to hold it in, and that makes me feel worse. Also, when she gets mad at me, she does it more on purpose just to tick me off. My advice to you is to find some way in your mind to cope with it.
at least you realize he can't help it. get some time alone to meditate. relaxation candles, quiet time, reading, or whatever helps you. maybe you can even suggest a different way to help him with his cough. my mother had a cough like that for a long tim. she finally went to an allergist. it really helped.
have you tried wearing headphones and listening to music around the house?
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