Another one on depression..?
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I think you feel worse about your depression after going to therapy because your talking and facing your problems. Little by little you will feel better. I too felt guilty about being depressed and my doctor helped me understand that i have nothing to feel guilty about. Many times i have read, on this site, people say things like, think of the starving people in the world or think about if you were homeless. The worse thing you can do is to compare yourself to anyone depressed or not. My doctor explained it to me like this. Say you got into a bad car crash and your arm and leg was broken, would you lay there and say I feel guilty about the pain i am in? or I have no right to complain because someone else in the world feels worse than me? Of course not. If everyone compared their lives to someone they believed had it worse, to make themselves feel better they would never realize they needed to fix what was wrong or bothering them in their life. If someone compared themselves to people they thought were smarter or prettier they would constantly trying to be perfect or reach an image they could never attain.
You have the right to feel the pain you feel. Don't feel ashamed of what you are going through or feel guilty and if anyone can't understand then so be it. You are assuming you will be burdening the people in your life with your problems but you don't know how they are going to react, you never know they might want to help you. In my case the people in my life, when i told them, wanted to be supportive and told me all we want is for you to be happy.
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Go get some professional help - a psychiatrist. The doctor can give you some medicine to help you! You don't have to suffer! Please seek help! I know its hard to deal with, the doctor will help you!
I have been there and the only way to really get help is to go to a therapist. No one will think that you are crazy and nowadays, a LOT of people go or have gone to therapy so it's not a big deal anymore. I felt very gulity about breing depressed-thinking how dare I feel that way when there are people worse off than I am ; I have it pretty good so I should not be depressed,etc. Feeling like that is part of depression. Getting help will find the root of your problem and help get it under control. Get help so that you can start living your life. I know exactly what you are talking about, as I have been through much of the same circumstances. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Clinical depression is a medical problem often resulting from a chemical imbalance in the brain (although some ignorant people would argue against this). You need to acknowledge this problem not only to yourself but to those who love you. That is the first step. If you don't talk about it with others, then it will only stay bottled up and will become worse. Consult a caring, down-to-earth doctor who will be able to help you. He may be able to prescribe medication that would help you. But take it from me, don't rely just on the medicine (I learned the hard way), you also have to work very hard to change your thoughts and attitudes about a lot of things. And don't expect the problem to be solved overnight or even in a few months. This is a problem that could take several months to a few years. The best thing is to be patient. Good luck in your recovery!
You should not feel guilty depression is a treatable condition like diabetes, i sought the help of a christian counselor and if you need get a prescription for meds from your doctor if you are not christian the seek, regular counseling as for sharing your feeling just try it you can always try keeping a journal too.
Unfortunately Depression is not a good state to be in. Why. because a great deal of problems exist and create a state of depression in you. And I strongly recommend that you start dealing with those problems in making them go away. You may not be able to deal with them alone, but there are a lot of free services out there that are willing to help you cope until your main problems are resolved. And stop worrying about those that are worst off then you are, you just have point it out to them to seek help with some of those free agencies. and get a cure for themselves..
I have a problem opening up to people around me, i think they think I'm angry all the time till this workplace now where someone asked if i had bipolar depression, trust me it didn't just come up like that but this person is dealing with that in his girlfriend who is now pregnant, fortunately it seems like the few people i work with right now can see that i have mood swing and they know when i get worse i think some of them know where I'm coming from they would perceive they everyone has problems but i say not everyone comes form the same type of problems if you could find someone with similar you two can compare note like a support group help each other
It's ok. Don't beat yourself up about being depressed or feel guilty. You didn't do it to yourself The best thing you are doing for yourself is talking it out and getting help. I've been there. People who have never suffered from depression don't really understand it.They try to help or they're afraid of it and scoffe it off. They don't really understand the lonelyness, the emptiness, the darkness. I was a trained psychologist and until I suffered depression myself, I didn't understand it as well as I do now. I'm a much better therapist now than I was then. My associates thought I was joking, my family said snap out of it. It is important to talk to someone. Those closest to you may not understand until later. They mean well and want the best for you.
It doesn't matter if someone has been depressed longer than you. Depression hurts. You suffer as well as those around you. They just don't know how to help.
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