how do i get rid of these feelings of distrust where there isnt any?
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Do you feel unworthy of her, that you're not good enough for her? You might have some self esteem issues you need to work out. If you think that you deserve to be cheated on, or that it happened once so it will always happen to you, then you'll continue to feel distrustful of anyone you're in a relationship with, until you can resolve these feelings.
Try to think positively. When the nagging voice in your head starts to say "Oh no, what if she's going out with another guy instead of her girlfriends!" cut it off quickly and replace those worries with things you know to be true. My girlfriend loves me, she's always been honest with me, she values our relationship, I'm worthy of her, she wouldn't want to hurt me or our relationship, etc etc. Try to move beyond what's happened in your past, and focus on the girl you're with now.
Recognize that you're a different person now, and that she isn't the same as the girls who hurt you in the past.
It takes time to get over bad experiences, but it can be done. If you need more help with this, I'd recommend seeing a counselor, or talking to a friend that you trust about it.
Also it wouldn't hurt to tell your girlfriend how you feel, and why you feel this way. Explain that you trust her, but it's still hard for you to cope with some of the bad things that happened to you before. Thank her for being a trustworthy, good girlfriend that's understanding enough to help you through this.
Good luck!
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You cannot change your own distrust, you would have to prove to your self that she isn't cheating and that should satisfy you for a while. But if you've been hurt before you will always be on the defence about someone cheating on you again. You should seek some professional help on this matter.
work on your insecurity..when you feel like you are worthy and matter, you won't need to act this way.
You need to talk to a counselor or therapist before you ruin this relationship with your lack of trust. Without trust there can be no love. You aren't like other guys are you? So get it through your head that this girl isn't like the other girls.
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