If someone you knew told you that they harmed themselves would you treat them differently?
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Self harm is very common, people do it in all sorts of ways.
If I was your friend I would want you to tell me about it, so that I had peace of mind that you were safe. Are you safe?
Self harm can be done in a safe way, if you cut yourself make sure that what you use is sterile, and is not going to cut you too deeply. I would much prefer that you didn't cut yourself, and that you spoke to a counsellor.
I know that this is your way of coping with things, but trust me, hurting yourself is not going to help you in the long run. All it will do is cause you more problems, more upset and more loneliness.
Talk about it, get help.
Don't worry about what your friends will say or if they think your weird, because its done now anyway. This is about you. Sort yourself out and don't worry about your friends reaction, that should make no difference to how you change your habit.
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some one like this needs help. l would try to get them to see there gp.
i would treat them different meaning you should try to look after them, but i wouldnt think they were weird
Well it would depend on how they hurt themselves. If they cut themselves then I would tell someone about it because knowing a secret about a friend can almost be as bad as having done what they did. I would have a long conversation though with my friend and just talk about what she/he was thinking when it happened and why did she/he do it. Depending on the outcome of the conversation would decide how I would treat them. No I don't think they are weird. They are crying out for help, and you should feel honoured they chose to tell you. If they don't want to speak to a Dr, then suggest the Samaritan's or childline, depending on age
In a word, no. They are just a person, like you or I, only they don't know how to handle their sadness/emotions and take it out on themselves. Be a friend and treat them normally, or don't bother, there's nothing worse than being patronised by people just because they don't understand.
I would inform a responsible adult and see if there is a way to get this person into counciling. I wouldn't treat them any differently, but when they said anything that might indicate that they were wanting to hurt themselves of kill themselves I would listen and get help for them. It would be better to be hated for trying to help, that to have to be sad when you have to go to their funeral knowing you could have helped.
If they fell down the stairs and harmed themselves, no.
If they cut their wrist on purpose years ago and now didn't do it anymore, no.
If they recently tried to do themselves in I would suggest they get help and I would find someone else to hang out with.
And don't say they might be doing that because they don't have friends. They still need help that only a professional can provide. If they are inclined to hurt themselves they might decide to hurt someone else too. I wouldn't know what to do.
I would be different towards them - I would be more supportive and be there for them more if they wanted me to be.
I would be carefully not to stress or upset them.
I have a counseling background. I definitely do not judge..
Yes, they probably are a bit different but the same as many as well. We all have issues some of many.. It's all in how we handle them or don't for that matter.
In my professional position, I would have to treat them differently only b/c if I thought it still a threat that they may still be a harm to themselves I would need to report it so that they could get help immediately. However, if it is just a part of that person's past- of course I would not stay away..It is a timeline thing. Like I said I am not one to judge..
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My husband and my best friend are both cutters. The only difference that they can see in the way that I've been different is that I make sure that my house and her house has a first aid kit.
I try to stay open with them because for both of them there is an emotional release that they feel and I try to make sure that I'm emotionally available so that maybe they won't do it. There are still times that it does happen though and for those times the first aid kit is around. I just hope that they don't go too deep or anything. My husband is on medications for a severe Bipolar disorder so sometimes it seems better but I don't expect it to disappear totally.
I would possibly treat them a little differently, maybe be careful of what I say or whatever. I wouldn't keep away from them, I'd do my best to help. I'd probably be sympathetic. If people are so low that they are even considering this, they need all the support they can get.
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