fat girl seeks beauty!?

Question:

i am 25 and i been overweight most of my teenage years and i lost a large amount of weight over 100 pounds. i cry and feel overwhelmed about being overweight still inspite of the fact that people say i am not. i gone as far as eating once a day or not eating at all to feeling disguisting about eating and throwing up. i feel ugly and used for some reason. specially at the fact that my body will never be the same inspite of my weightloss. i am planning to have some kind cosmetic surgery to my body because i hate looking at myself naked. now i been doubting about my " inner beauty" i don't feel like i am as good of a person or even good person after i lost massive weigght. the problems is that now that my looks on the outside are more presentable people think i am better but most don't really know how i feel about looks, and how ugly i feel inside and out. i don't know what to do anymore or even say to myself. i am 25 and single and can't get close to a men because i think i am too ugly.

Answers:
First of all, congratulations on your weight loss. That's a remarkable acheivement! I think some of your feelings come from the fact that you had these expectations of how you would look and feel after you lost weight, and the reality is a little different. It also takes some time for your head to catch up with the physical changes that have taken place. I think it might help if you find a counsellor, someone you can talk to about how you're feeling. Did you lose weight on your own, or with a weight loss group? -it might help if you talk to other people who have experienced a high weight loss. I had a friend who experienced similar feelings to you. She says she felt so lonely and desperate because everyone kept telling her how great she should feel, and how together she now appeared, when inside she felt more hopeless than ever. So, just know that other people have experienced the same kind of feelings. It would also be a good idea to see a nutritionist/join a weight management group so that they can be supportive and help you develop a healthy lifestyle. I really feel for you and I wish you all the best.

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chill out gurl when your skinny it not like people are just going to look at your body first people still look at your personallity, but you just being sad all the time will not help you gets a guy ether so cheer up there is alot of men out there for you you just have to find the right one

It seems to me your issues are not skin deep. They go much farther. I think no matter what you do you will not be satified with the progress you make. You should be really proud that you lost 100 pounds rather than being so upset that you aren't a supermodel.

I do think it would help for you to talk to a therapist. You can work on your self esteem issues with them.

You sound so depressed. My sister has always been heavy and you know what, when we where kids she always got all the boys! I was skinny as can be, but never had any self esteem. Some men like bigger women.

you need to see a good counsillor to help u deal with this. i know this sounds cliche and doesnt help comming from a lingerie model but its whats on the inside. if u are confident and happy within urself u make urself attractive to other people

I've been overweight for all of my life and I really feel that a lot of woman, both young and old spend too much of their time worrying about their weight. I'm sorry luv...but I am 40 years old and have weighed 200 pounds for the last 15 years. I've had no problem finding men who love me for who I am. Most of them have been very nice and good looking.
I know in my heart that if a man sees me for who I am they will love me and not go astray. Yes, I used to feel ugly like you, I was belemic for a lot of my high school years. You will find in time that people are just people and if they don't like you for you, then they are just...well..too shallow. Who cares what they think!
You are beautiful in every way, shape and form in the Lords eyes. He is all that matters. Live for him. He will make you healthy and strong and any good man would never pass up a fine young thing as you.
Get over your fears, love. You have a long life to live and you will find yourself when you are my age worrying about other things, other than your weight.
As far as cosmetic surgury: Are you really sure about someone hacking up your body. The thought of that just makes me sick. It's just a body: Get over it. Exept yourself for who you are. Men will be lining up at your door. They probably already are and your too blind to see outside of your body.
We are not all perfect: but we can strive to be perfect for the Lord, inside. I love being who I am. Love yourself too. Always know that I love you just the same. You are a wonderful person and you are not ugly. Look in your mirror. I suggest you see you for who you really are. You lost 100 pounds. Doesn't that make you feel good. Just continue to eat healthy and do not skip meals, or days because that can harm your body almost as bad as plastic surgery. So smile. For the rest of your life.

Many women are just like you.

You lost 100 pounds. That is wonderful. If you can do that, you can do anything. Don't worry about your body not being the same, don't you like it better now?

I don't think there is anything any of us can say that will really help. It may just take time honey. You will meet a great man and he won't care about anything but you.

If you are feeling depressed, please get help from your doctor. If medication is necessary there are many. If you can overcome it others ways, a doctor can help with that too. As lame as it sounds, exercise really helped me with depression. A long walk everyday made me feel so much better.

Good luck.

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