How do I work up the nerve to talk to someone about cutting?
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hey why dont you call one of those phone numbers that keep everything quiet but can help you? If i was in you shoes that is what i would do.
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i think your crying out for attention cause you just told everyone about your promblem
talk to your parents.....they wont hate u or think less of you.....you've got to get some help....if your parents are the type that dont listen.....tell a close friend or family member and try to get help ...secretly if you must!
If you want to talk to your parents about it, gather up some "For friends and family" type information from self-injury websites(the one called secret shame is one of the best out there) and have it handy for the big talk. Also, just know that talking someone and seeking help is the first step to stopping. The process is long and hard, but know there is hope. It is possible to stop and it is possible to gain control of your life.
Good luck to you.
Tell your parents soon. They wont understand, but they will want to help you.
I am a parent who didn't understand, but I wanted help for my teenage daughter. She was 17 then, and now she is two months from 21 and doing real well. Things can turn around for you. You may feel helpless, so this is a time to reach out to others and let them help you.
Talk to your parents and explain you're having some emotional problems and feel you would benefit by talking to a therapist. Cutting is really more common than most people would think so it wouldn't surprise the therapist at all. He could work with you regarding talking to your parents about it. good luck.
when i "came out", so to speak, about cutting myself i felt the same fear. i was even ashamed of myself. i tried on a few occasions to tell my parents, and it just made me want to cut myself because of the shame and frustration it gave me.
how i was finally able to convey to my parents what i was doing and how i was feeling was to write it all down. once i was finished writing it i left it on our stove (that was where i knew they'd find it) and went out for awhile. i didn't want to be home when they read it. when i came home they had enough time to think it over and they approached me.
they had a small intervention and i'm cut free now for 4 years. it is very hard and the feeling comes around again sometimes but i feel better with myself when i don't give in.
good luck and stay strong. it is a long road but you can do it!
You don't have to say anything. Just walk up to your parents and show them your arms. Be prepared to answer questions honestly. They will ask what happened because they love you, then just tell them that you do this to yourself and you don't know why. More than likely your parents will ask you what's wrong, if you're upset or unhappy about something or something to that effect.Just explain to them that you came to them because you want their help and that you kept it a secret because you were embarassed and felt like you let them down and they will do everything within their power to help you. I say tell your parents because anyone else that you tell will only tell your parents for you because you're hurting yourself and they are not legally bound to keep it a secret when you are hurting yourself or someon else. So, if you tell your parents you can avoid too many people knowing your business.
My dear child- how you suffer! Do you know why? People cut themselves becasue they are in pain and they are trying to let it out. I've some info for you below.
Many people cut themselves because it gives them a sense of relief. Some people use cutting as a means to cope with any problem. Some teens say that when they hurt themselves, they are trying to stop feeling lonely, angry, or hopeless. Some teens who hurt themselves have low self-esteem, they may feel unloved by their family and friends, and they may have an eating disorder, an alcohol or drug problem, or may have been victims of abuse.
Teens who hurt themselves often keep their feelings “bottled up” inside and have a hard time letting their feelings show. Some teens who hurt themselves say that feeling the pain provides a sense of relief from intense feelings. Cutting can relieve the tension from bottled up sadness or anxiety. Others hurt themselves in order to “feel.” Often people who hold back strong emotions can begin feeling numb, and cutting can be a way to cope with this because it causes them to feel something. Some teens also may hurt themselves because they want to fit in with others who do it.
If you are hurting yourself, PLEASE GET HELP — It is possible to overcome the urge to cut. There are other ways to find relief and cope with your emotions. Please talk to your parents, your doctor, or an adult you trust, like a teacher or religious leader. At the bottom of this page is a list of telephone numbers of organizations that can help you.
Who are the people who hurt themselves? top
People who hurt themselves come from all walks of life, no matter their age, gender, race or ethnicity. About one in 100 people hurts himself or herself on purpose. More females hurt themselves than males. Teens usually hurt themselves by cutting with sharp objects.
Self-injury can be dangerous — cutting can lead to infections, scars, numbness, and even hospitalization and death. People who share tools to cut themselves are at risk of getting and spreading diseases like HIV and hepatitis. Teens who continue to hurt themselves are less likely to learn how to cope with negative feelings.
For more information
SAFE - Self Abuse Finally Ends - Alternatives®
Call 1-800-366-8288 for more information on self-injury. If it is an emergency, please call 911.
Below is the website link. Please call the number AS SOON AS YOU READ THIS! You are important to a lot of people, you do not have to hide your weakness any longer behind that mask of strength or false bravado. We all get by with a little help from our family and friends. I bet that if you share your feelings that you are denying with several friens they'd circle around you with so much love and I know because I too felt hopeless and lost at one timewas contemplating ending it all when I fianlly took action and get my life straightened out. God will give you the strength to get thru anything, He promised that so tap into your faith and some friends and family. Call the hotline and check out the web site. You have people even in this "forum" who not even knowing you do care and value you.
My father said these words to me one time, words that I will never forget, when I was at my lowest in life several years ago: "I never gave up on you son. You're a good man and worth fighting for." So my dear I say to you do not give up, you are worth fighting for, people love you and you do have a purpose. If you just need to talk, write me or another respondent and we're correspond. For God's sake don't bear this cross alone, the load will break you and it is unnecessary to do.
Check out this website:
http://www.girlshealth.gov/mind/help.injury.htm#2
I used to burn myself on my legs and I know how you feel. Like the pain you feel from cutting is nothing compared to the pain you feel inside. And I did go see a counseler but I didn't even tell him about it. I grew stronger by realizing that the people I was burning myself over were so not worth it. I even spoke to my psychology class about it while wearing the first skirt I'd worn since I'd started the burnings. The physical scars will never go away but the emotional ones will heal once you let yourself become an example for others who have been in our position. I believe in you :).
Ah, Ellie - I just answered one of your other questions, and I feel that we are on the same wavelength (check out my answer to your God question).
I'm sorry you're going through such a terrible time. But try to remember that cutting is a recognised condition, and there is all the help in the world out there if you just reach out for it.
NOBODY - not even Mum and Dad - has to know anything at all all if you don't want them to. Obviously, it's best if you can tell them, but if you feel that it would hinder you at the moment, then don't tell them. You are the important person - and you need to be thinking of what is best for you, until you're sufficiently recovered and able to confide in them. Anything you confide in the doctors will remain strictly confidential.
You need to go and see your doctor. Don't think about it, don't agonise - just DO IT. If you don't feel that you'll be able to get the words out, then write them down before you go - and just hand it to him/her. Don't feel embarrassed - they'll have seen it all, and much worse, before. And they'll be very pleased that you're seeking help.
And try to remember, that when you have conquered this (which you WILL) your family and friends will have so much respect for the strength you've shown.
You're not alone. All of us have problems that we hide away. You are just one of the brave ones who is willing to face up to it, and make it stop.
You strike me as an intelligent girl - and you deserve a better life than this, don't you?
Take care, and e-mail me if I can help at all.
Donna xxxxxx
You just did here. The next step is telling everyone that you are a bag of issues.
How about writting a letter to your parents let it all out , its hard to tell someone your in trouble and I know how afriad you are but its ok something inside of you is telling to to fight for you and that is the first step
please tell somebody...tell a friend,tell your parents I have a daughter she is 16 and she know's she can talk to me and I want her to tell me anything that is bothering her. tell someone for your sake and theirs because a lot of people love you. from a dad.
you need some personal attention and this is not the place to get it.
don''t! just don't
I am going through the same thing. I am 17 and have been cutting for 6 years. I want help before I turn 18, but I too, am afraid to say something to my parents. I figured, when I tell them, I am going to be in a public place, like a resturaunt, and have my sister and my best friend there for support. So maybe if you do it like I described, maybe your fear won't be as bad. Just make sure you have some sort of support system there when you tell them. GOOD LUCK, Be safe!
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