My huge jealousy issues are making me push my boyfriend of two years away.?

Question:

My boyfriend and I love eachother very much and we get along very well. The one and only thing we ever fight about is my jealousy. I get jealous very easy and i question him of cheating and acuse him of checking out other women almost every day, more than once. It hurts me and it hurts our relationship even more. I want to stop, but I don't know what to do, or how, when i try, it only works temporarily, and i'm still thinking what i would have said in my mind. PLEASE HELP, I need some guidance on where to go or what do to, this jealousy is eating me up inside.

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You have a trust issue. Jealousy is normal and everyone has it. Most men, wanting to or not, will look at other women. They may not act on it but they will look and check - they are wired that way. Since you can't trust, you're relationship is really in trouble. I am surprised he's still around after two years of mistrust. I too have jealousy where my wife is concerned. But, I trust her with everything and has never disappointed. She has lots of male friends, local and worldwide. My jealousy is my issue and I deal with it and not with her. You can do the same.

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a little jealousy is healthy. tell you're bf you do that because you don't want to lose him. try to be more confident and trust him and before you start with a jealousy attack think about how much he loves you. go to counseling if it gets worse.

Has he ever done you wrong?If not then you have serious trust issues and if you cannot trust him you should not be together,trust is the foundation of any relationship.If he has done you wrong in the past and forgiven him,it may be your subconcious telling you that you never got over it and you think he could do it again,in that case you should confront him and get it out in the open.If he cannot understand,it is not worth staying with him.Not all relationships workout,even when both people are in love,sometimes it's just not meant to be.
If you need to talk,i'm here.

I have the same issue, I get INSANELY jealous. I found out that jealousy is a form of insecurity - that I was basing my self-esteem on what someone else thought of me. It's VERY difficult. I've driven friends away with my jealousy. I could say maybe you should break up with him, because maybe you're not a good match. But the problem with that is that your jealousy issue remains. I don't know how to help you, I wish I could - jealousy sucks!

Love, Jack

I know how you are feeling. I am a very jealous person. Infact I go overboard. I do not know how to stop it. It does put a wedge in a relationship. I have been going out with my boyfriend for two years. Last year he had a birthday party and invited his ex wife and 3 of his old girlfriends. I do not drink, but I got stuck into the alcohol and boy was I a right proper *****. Not to his ex but to my boyfriend..........A friend once told me "No Man is worth it",,,,,,,Some how I think we have to go with our brain not with our hearts at times.....no so easy I know.
Good luck sweetie I hope things work out for you.
I also wish I knew how to get over jealously.
Kim

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