Why am I having such a horrific time getting over my narcissistic hubby. We split 6 months ago-his decision.?


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He already has a new woman, in fact I think he already had her lined up. But I can't believe that he doesn't love me anymore. I loved this man so much and he made me feel the same way. Was it all a lie on his part? I makes me sick to my stomach. How do I stop thinking about him making love to her like he did to me. I thought I was special.He told me he never had" sex" until he met me. We were together 6 years , so It could not have been just that. How do I climb out of this hole I am in? I have definitely come along way from 6 months ago, but some people think I should just forget about him I CAN'T. I truly loved this man . I never have grieved over any man before in my life.He was the sweetest man in the world to me. Was this all an act on his part? He had someone else so soon after we split it made my head spin. He showed absolutely NO REMORSE! Getting rid of me was just a chore that he had to do . He told me he always gets what he wants. He also said "You don't want to see me angry

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This can be answered on 2 levels.

first, you could be having a hard time getting over him because of loneliness. You need to get out there and start doing and trying new things. Also, if you are having a really hard time and feeling depressed, consider talking to a counselor.

second, I see an abusive tendency coming through. When a man threatens "You don't want to see me angry", he's trying to manipulate you. If he really cared for you, he wouldn't have said that.

You don't need him. If he breaks up with you and goes straight to another woman, then this next woman will be in for her own "next woman." You don't need this creep. You deserve better. They're are better guys out there. Move on from from him. you can do it! Good luck!

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umm yeah you need to get over him and find somebody else that will help you through it. if worse comes to worse go talk to a psycologist or psyciatrist i never know which is which
Perform some self retrospection to see why u would love a narcissitic man to begin with, count your blessings that you're finally rid of him and decide to be happy again..Decide to move on.. It's as simple as that.. Once you tell youself he never deserved u in the first place and you're over him, you'll feel better!
First of all my heart goes out to you.I believe I was once married to the King of Narcissist's. You really need to exam why you are feeling this way, It may have more to do with your ego than it does with love. Feelings of rejection are very, very, difficult to deal with. You believed this person loved you as much as you apparently loved him, and realizing that this may not be the case is a big blow to your self esteem. Are you constantly questioning yourself (ie) What is wrong with you? What did you do wrong? What is it that this other woman has got that you don't have? It may be that this whole abandonment issue really has you beating yourself up, and feeling that you were not good enough. You mentioned that you thought you were special, you are, but you will need to develop other ways in which to feel special, boost your ego, because it is obviously a little damaged at this point. You need to think about the "reality" of what kind of man totally disregards you and your feelings. You need to see this as a character flaw of his. If this is how this man is able to treat you with no remorse, he really is not worth having. It will be difficult but you need to force yourself to move on. Wishing you well. You are free to contact me if you like.
Sounds like a sociopath to me. Look it up and see how many qualities he has that are symptoms of that disorder. He probably only truly loves himself. You were drawn to this man like a moth to the flame. He does that to people. He was never yours to keep and you are better off without him. It hurts, but you can overcome heartache and become a much stronger person for it. Good luck, I have faith in you!
What a loser. You deserve better and you must tell yourself that every waking minute until you actually start to believe it.One day you will wake up and say to yourself what was I thinking hanging out with someone like that. I must have been out of my cotton picking mind ! Be good to yourself. Stay busy and when you catch yourself thinking about him change the channel. Eventually you will arrive at Acceptance and your mind will be free to make better choices in men .
I think he is a narcisist who loves himself and will keep a woman around for a while and then dump her and get a new one like many men. Like getting a new car.
The best thing you can do is to start dating again and I suggest eharmoney.com .
GEt out there!
Time to move on and quit thinking of him.

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