I think I have a crush on my therapist. Do I tell her or keep my mouth shut?
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You have a classical attraction. Your therapist should know how to deal with the issue.
If you don't let your therapist know - you are being dishonest with them - what is the point of therapy.
Be honest, but be accepting of the answer you get.
At best, they'll be flattered, and tell you there's no future in a relationship. At worst, they'll take on a relationship - and then, you are at the total pity of your therapist..
Be open - and get a pre-nupt before you go too far.
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It's your choice but you should tell her.
If you tell her you will make the therapy session worthless. Maybe you should tell her that you are attracted to some females.
Do it i told my therapist about it , and we explored it toguether.
I think it will help you grow as a person, and will help you alot.
Do it for yourself. :)
Alot of people fall for their therapist. It has something to do with an Admiration crush. It's very common, and usually only turns out o be a temporary infatuation. Give it time. Perhaps it will pass.
keep your mouth shut.
tell her. I hope that you didnt say that you are the same sex as your therapist.
Well dont be stupid like me(but i am a guy but am afraid to ask chicks out)
Just tell her and good luck with that :D
no you don't..find opposite sex. that's better
How long have you had this therapist? Is it a new relationship? I would keep my mouth shut for now. Especially if you want to continue the therapy.
think on it for a few more days and then tell her.GOOD LUCK!!
Well, if she's a therapist, then tell her. Say that you feel attracted to a member of the same sex, and you don't know what kind of attraction it is.
wicked! definately tell her, after all she's your therapist and who knows what could happen. Take a chance in life
You should tell her, and you should ask her for a referral to another therapist. The therapist/client relationship makes some strong bonds but your feelings will very possibly interfere with your therapy. Once you've been a patient, an ethical therapist would never date you, even years down the road, so you unfortunately will not be able to persue your feelings, so you should move on and try and find a therapist where you can concentrate on your therapy with no distractions. By the way, it's not that uncommon for a patient to develop a crush on a therapist (just like getting a crush on your teacher or boss) because they are an authority figure, and you discuss some deep emotions. Don't freak out over it but don't continue seeing this therapist (not anything negative on her, just will be hard for her to be effective) and don't put her in a position where she may be tempted to do something unethical.
Talk w/ her about it.
This is one of those things to say!
If you tell her, be prepared for her to tell you to find another therapist.
But if this attaction is distracting you from your therapy, you might want to let her know and then tell her you're going to get a new therapist. Remember - you probably started therapy for a reason other than trying to pick up chicks! Keep your eyes on the goal here!
Then if for any reason the two of you ever care to see each other socially - it's not an ethical violation.
no, don't tell her. you're already freaked out, don't need the person who's trying to help you freaking out also. and by the way, it's not uncommon to have a crush on your therapist. or even a teacher, etc.... just a crush, you'll get over it.
It means you need more therapaeutic attention. You need to tell the thepist.
Common occurrence. It's all in your mind.
WE share the same name!
If you do tell her, she will likely not be your therapist any longer - ethics.
So many patients think they are in love with or have a crush on their therapist. Its a time of your life when your vulnerable and the Therapist is your rock..its normal. It will go away.
The reason there is a rule in Professional circles is that people often can get attracted to people who help them. It's not ethical to use that attraction - on either side of the fence. You must realize that this is probably the case in your instance. The therapist has/is helping you. Your response to being helped is not unique. Acting on it WOULD be a mistake, for you, and for your therapist.
I think this answers the question. Good luck with getting on with your life!
I imagine so.. (don't sound like you've had experience w/this..) It's l00% normal, fairly common.. so relax! Boy, I guess it's a tossup about 'discussing it.' (I'd be embarassed.. so I can relate.) You know what? I think it's all in how you phrase the comment to (is it a her?) You have to be tactful! She's a therapist (she's run into this before.. trust me on this) and she'll "get it" what you are leading to. (NOW I guess I've gotta come up w/that 'ideal comment' huh?) let me see here.. How about.. "my feelings are so out of control on something.. can you help me analyze a positive feeling I've been having toward you all these many sessions? Is it normal?" (Might throw it in how she's been so 'tremendously damned helpful' to you in there somewhere.. ) lol.. g'luck.. (melancholia)
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a few incidents of my own along this line
You get a new therapist, and this time, unless you are a lesbian, get a female therapist. What has happened is not unusual, but must not continue.
I think this is something you should definitely keep to your mouth shut Unless this completely takes over your life and you can not think about anything but this. Then she may be able to help you through this.
Do not say a word ! Just slip your hand under her skirt and start rubbing her thighs. You will find out then if she is receptive. Some people send out signals that they are attracted to you. Maybe the attraction is mutual.
Have a feel, have fun !
I wouldn't say anything. Therapist usually dont get involved with there patients.
its normal to get impressed by someone.. its not crush okay.. stay away from that kinda thoughts.. its just thta u're her fan n u wanna be like her.. i always liked my tution teacher.. i used to look at him with google eyes and always thinking about how great his style is.. but that was bcuz i wanted to be like him.. and now i am so much like him.. but that din'nt meant that i have a crush on him.. no way.. its just that if ur mind is looking around u for some roll model n suddenly u realise that u see him u get nervous and it happens so much like what happens in crush.. but beleive me.. its not..
Therapist-client is a professional relationship.
Keep your mouth shut.
i think if you tell her you might feel relieved..i too have that problem.i'm not gay...
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