Why am I worrying so much?

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I've been pretty down lately on college and my social life. I'll be 17 in a month, and I can't stop being upset. I have great best friends, and they'll always be here for me, but I feel college could tear us apart, and I don't want that at all. I plan to work my hardest to keep them, but I feel I just won't make a difference. One of those best friends has recently become my girlfirend, but while I should be happy, it's only causing more problems. I think I love her too much, to the point that I am worrying all the time that I will lose her. She also said she would go to "second base", handjobs etc. She said she doesn't actually want it, but she would do it for me if I wanted because she cares, but not unless I wanted. Frankly, I don't, I was raised Catholic and have strong morals on that subject. She herself is Catholic, never has drank, done drugs, or even made out with anyone. I feel a way about her that I've ever felt about anyone, but I don't want to give in to sexual activities.

Answers:
I think it's pretty simple: you're in puberty (hormones go crazy and cause all sorts of different moodswings), and on top of that you're in a very exciting period of your life with all sorts of things happening and changing, all sorts of choices you have to make on your future, your social life, your career... I would like to say "don't worry", but of course that's not going to work ;-) I know it's a hard time, I'm only just past it (I'm 21), so I still remember very well how it felt. "Stick it out" is maybe the best advice I can give you, and don't let go off your morals, your religion, your parents and so on if that is what gives you a sense of security. Also you should tell your girlfriend this, she probably feels the same (I think that's why she would go to "second base" with you. I bet she's just as scared of losing you as you are of losing her!!)
Best of luck!

After reading your later addition, I'd like to add: I felt very depressed when I was 16-17 aswell, I went to see a counsellor and it helped me a great deal, it made me a more responsible and mature person. But maybe it would help you just as well to talk to a priest or some other person you trust.
Moving out and going to university two years ago has made me a stronger person, too, after a bit of a rough stretch. I'm sure you'll be alright, and I really wish you well!

We all do but u will get out of it so think about the good.

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