son's dad is bi-polar hasnt come out of his room in days our 2year old is upset and traumatized?

Question:

my son is 2 and this has been happening since his birth. his wants to spend time with him only when he is in his manic phase. as a result of this behavior my 2 year old acts out when he see's his father. i am ready to leave our home because this cannot be the right way to raise a child. i cant make his father follow through with anything, dr.'s appt.'s ,anythind. all he wants to do is lay around and eat fast food takeout and put alot of guilt on me when i try to tell him that i think a different living enviroment might be better for son. can someone please tell me how to handle this situation?

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This is a difficult question. It is hard dealing with Bi-polar people when they are in their depression end of the scale. (My mother, great grandmother, sister, and 2 aunts and 1 cousin have Bi- polar disorder. -- yeah, a family thing-- I suffer with bouts of depression myself.)

Something situational usually sets these moods. Maybe a person hurting their feelings, they get in trouble at work, anything... then they can only see how bad things are. How bad things always happen to them. They can't see their way out.

Shutting themselves into a room, is actually comforting to them. They are shutting themselves in, away from the madness that is around them. They CAN'T not won't find the ump to get out... even to the Dr. or a base ball game. The only way of getting them out of this "poor pitiful me" funk is to trigger a "manic phase."

Do you know anything that triggers his? Maybe there is a certain friend. Or something he likes to do.

Scaring him by moving out may help him. It may make it "snap" out of it and realize it is time to do something. Then again it may push him further down.

Here is one scenario:

But you will have to actually do it and not threaten, because he won't react to threats if he has heard them a hundred times. Don't discuss, just do.

He will have to wake up and realize that you are not there, and are not coming back. Do you have a parent or someone you can stay with. He will probably come out of it. And come after you.

This could set endorphins off in his brain and cause a manic phase. Especially if he can "win" or "convince" you to come back.

This is going to be a never ending cycle though. Only with constant medicine and watch of Dr. can the cycles be lessened. This will be a life commitment if you are willing to stick it out. Something that "bi-polar" people have in common is emotions... They let there emotions guide them. They feel deeply and probably loves you with his whole heart. It could be a good thing. If you are able. If not get out.

Hope this helped. Email me if you want. Thank-you, Amanda btmt_hawk@earthlink.net

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Call a professional. If he won't see one, you call them and tell them the situation and see if they can give you some advice. Find someone with a lot of experience with bipolar disorder. Also, you could try a support group for bipolar or there is something called NAMI? National association for mental..?
Anyway, get in contact with people who have experience with this and they can give you the help you need.

There is some useful advice here.

Commit him to a mental hospital. Call your county court house to see what you have to do.

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