Therapy? or self pity?

Question:

I am in therapy myself, tryin to work thru the past so i'm not so bitchy in the present. But I find myself repeating myself alot, or just going and jabbering about the past and really, it hasnt done me alot of good but realize that all I do is feel bad for me. Does therapy really work? or do we americans just use it to make someone feel bad for us?

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Therapy.. is NOT a crutch.

It's medical, it's professional.and depending upon the therapist, can be beneficial to your health.

Self pity is sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and expect others to feed that pity.

Therapy can be finding yourself, what triggers your "bitchieness" and grow to the person you want to be.

You will have to work hard. That means, you can't go, write a check and then expect the therapist to perform miracles. You have to talk, you have to answer directed queestions and you have to think, feel, and press through a lot of bullshit to get to the heart of the matter.

As for me, I went through years and years of therapy.. but becuase I wasn't able to be totally honest about myself, I never got beyond "I"m done with therapy".

My break through happened when I was able to be TOTALLY honest. and after some directive "homework" and do very direct Q&A and didn't have the bullshit "so how does that make you feel" type of fluff. I completed my therapy with the therapist asking me rather directly, "why are you here?"

When I had my answer, as to why I was in therapy, he said I was free to fly on my own.

WOW - talk about true empowerment.

If you are not making progress in therapy. what are you "not" doing? What is the therapist "not" doing?

The goal of the therapist is to get you on your own, equipped to find your own triggers and tools to deal with issues. It's unfortunate, that some therapist aren't as directive or theraputic, just a credentialed and just see you as a bank roll.

Good luck and good health!

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I don't really believe in it myself but some people swear by it. If you are going to go to a therapist you need to find one that won't dwell on the past but rather help you work through the problems you are currently having. How you got there is really that relevant anymore.

You get out of it what you put into it. Yes, therapy really works for a lot of people -- and it's a royal waste of time and money for many others. The only person you can even hope to change is yourself, so the point of therapy is to talk about YOUR role in your problems. Just venting about your boss or family or lover will get you nowhere. Reflecting on your past can be very helpful, essential even, but only as it sheds light on how you function now.

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