If my narcissist ex hubby said to me near start of relationship that he was not a nice person was it red flag?

Question: my husband of 6 years said to me near the beginning of our relationship that he was" not a nice person." I would say of course you are,what are you talking about. He was always nice to me. He said this to me quite often , and I always laughed it off, He also would say, during conversation," Oh, you don't want to see me angry" He would say these things very calmly, would never yell at me. When we separated jan.1st, I did not want to and wanted to work things out , I said " In a mature relationship, people try to work things out before they split up".He said to me " I'm a immature guy!" I could get no intelligent , answers from this man.When I told him I would not move out of the house, that if he wanted to separate from me that he should move, he said "Do you want to do this the nice way or the nasty way through the lawyers?"He made lots of money and knew that because we were commonlaw I had fewer rights according to Ontario law. Were these things he said red flags and I ignored them?

Answers:
If those weren't red flags to you, I don't know what would have been. How much more obvious can it be, than for the man to TELL you he's "not nice" and "immature"? You should have listened.

I'll give him points for honesty, though he sounds like a big jerk.

Other Answers:
Yes now get away before something happens to you

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He knows himself better than anybody else does, and it looks like he made a pretty good assessment. Look for a guy who is mature enough for commitment, and who tries to impress you rather than make premature excuses.

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