HELP!! I need some suggestions....?

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I have a friend who has been quite depressed lately...he feels alone and no matter how hard he works he never gets great results (just avg. ones). He's even thought about committing suicide and feels that no one cares about him. I feel so very helpless and I do not know what to do to make him feel better. I myself am going through a rough time and hence I guess am bogging him down with my probelms too! We don't meet up, just talk on the phone (we used to go to the same school but he recently shifted to another school). I know not much will make me feel better but I want to make things better for him as I feel that I've made his life worse.However, I have no ideas.He's not very open and keeps a lot of things to himself...both of us have problems trusting people {due to various experiences}.We both need someone and I'd like to be that person for him and whenever I try to help him or try to get through him it never works.I feel like a horrible friend. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Answers:
I am now over 3 years together with my fiancee. I know him for 5 years and the time we met he was soooo depressed (also talking about suicide) and my suggestion to you would be to have A LOT of patience for him, to try talking when ever you can (even writting as many people here suggested, as this makes people more relaxed and more able to be honest) so he would see he can trust you and open up, and last but not least no matter what he sais understand it! He just needs somebody who will understand what ever is happening in his life. Depressed people often can't get cheerful when somebody is trying to brighten their days with being super positive, they actually even tend to get more depressed as they see they can't be that happy as person who is trying to make them feel like that. So key is understanding! Start from these few things and see where it takes you....However, let me add that exactlly this way i helped my fiancee get out of his depression and through the trust that started existing between us from that time, we even realized we are soulmates!We couldn't be happier now :) Hope this helps! Good luck!

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