what do you do about missing someone who will never come back because they died?
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I know what you're going through. My dad died 28 years ago when I was 9, my best friend died 3 1/2 years ago and my mom died 2 1/2 years ago. It's INCREDIBLY PAINFUL but you go on and surround yourself with people who love and care about you. That's what helps me. You cry alot and feel like someone reached inside of you and ripped your heart and guts out but you have to think about how the person that you lost would want you to go on and live a happy and healthy life.
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You deal with it, and remember the good times you had, and talk about them with other people so their memory stays alive and with you even when they can't.
You are grieving. It will take time but you will get over it. You need to get involved in your work, school, or friends and let time heal the pain.
Just remember them, keep their memory alive. And keep talking to them....believe
still trying to figure that one out because they are irreplaceable and you never actually get over them ......... just learn to live with it i guess
Get counseling. You may need some help to work through your grieving.
It's natural to grieve. Give yourself the luxury of time, and don't be afraid to wallow in it for a while. But eventually, put your grief aside and go on.
God speed you.
you don't do anything...you miss them.
You accept that you miss them and then you move on when you are ready.
Well, one thing you can do is become educated about the grieving process. Be aware that anger, denial, wanting to "bargain" with God, and sadness are all part of the process. Be aware that there is no one way to grieve correctly...some people cry, some people don't, etc. Time is the only thing that can truly heal the wound. But it may help to surround yourself with people who knew and loved the person who passed. Spend time remembering them, laughing together, celebrating their life.
Keep them alive in your heart. Keep things of theirs or something that makes you think of them and that reminds you of the good times. You don't have to stop missing them.
Dear.... I feel what your saying. I lost a good friend a couple of years ago and every day I feel it. You do go on though and think of all the wonderful things you did together and knowing that this life is not all there is. The dead will rise again the scripture says. We will be reunited one day. Thats Gods Promise to us....
Nothing. You keep on living. And laughing and loving. Every once in a while you will cry and still you will keep on living and laughing and loving. You never get over it. But respect the life they had and live yours well. :)
It has been 32 years and I still miss my father like I did when I was 10. God Bless.
If you have a photo of the person sit and talk with the picture. Sounds pretty crazy since of course it isnt going to talk back to you but it makes me feel better. And you can talk to the photo in your head you dont have to do it out loud. I hug my friends picture too every now and then. As long as the person is in your heart they will always be with you.
First, I am sorry if you lost someone recently. The best answer is knowing that you will see them again in Heaven. I have lost many people in my family over the years and the only thing that keeps me sane is knowing I will be with them again. Remember the fun times, the happy times and keep this person alive by those thoughts.
I once heard in a movie that the hard part isn't missing that person, it's remembering that person that's difficult. Write your thoughts and feelings down in a journal or diary. Write everything down that you remember about that person and then you will have it the rest of your life to look back on and remember that person with.
Set up a shrine. Frame a collection or collage of photos and items that remind you of what you liked about that person. Hang it on your wall and be grateful for all the time you had together.
I know it feels like the world around you just keeps going on without your loved one, and it can be really maddening sometimes, because people just get back to work/school/etc, don't want to talk about the person or whatever. Don't be that person. I'm not suggesting that you dwell on it forever, but take time to remember the good things, the bad and the crazy times, and how much fun you had. Make a list of the ways the person influenced your life, and things that you want to do because they inspire you to do them. Then, do those things, be who you are, and celebrate their life and what they gave instead of mourning their loss.
And maybe get together with other people who knew the person on a special day (like the person's birthday) which would normally be a sad event for people, and turn it into a "share ways that this person touched my life in a positive way" party.
Loss is hard, but it's a fact of life, so how you deal with it will make a huge impact on how your life turns out!
MY GRANDMOTHER PASSED AWAY ALMOST 3 YEARS AGO AND I STILL HAVING A HARD TIME DEALING WITH IT I CRY TO THIS DAY AT TIMES THINKING ABOUT THE GOOD DAYS WITH HER AND ALL THE GREAT TIMES WE HAD AND THE WONDERFUL MEMORIES WE SHARED BUT MY ADVICE IS
TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AND TIME WILL HEEL THE MIND AND BODY JUST REMEBER ALL THE GOOD TIMES YOU HAD
GOOD LUCK
GOD BLESS
Know that this is normal. Breathe. Talk to the deceased in private moments. Read a good book on grieving or death. One that comes to mind is "Home With God" by Neale Donald Walsch. If you ever get that feeling that they are nearby, believe it, be comforted by it. God bless you in your healing/grieving. Oh, and most important, don't forget to cry......often and much, it is so cleansing.
You grieve, and eventually you will be able to move on -- you will probably always miss them, though.
I have been trying to do the same. I lost my father 2 years ago in April, happen to be on my 20th birthday that he past away. After that my whole family fell apart. I look at the good side of things, just because they are not here with us in person doesnt mean they dont come around and visit. I dream about my father when I miss him and that just means that he came to visit me. He is my angle and I call on him when I need to. On fathers day, my birthday, and his birthday I just send him a orange balloon with a message to him and thats my way of dealing with it. I not only lost my father but I also lost my family and I do have a hard time sometimes but I get through it and my husband helps me, although I do take it out on him sometimes when I really shouldnt. Time will help but just remember they will never be replaced.
They live in your heart and in your memories.
My Nana just passed on and I miss her so much. But I see her in the way I do things. I see her in my mother, her daughter. I see her in her Great Granddaughter, my daughter. I see her in gardens, her favorite hobby. I see her in animals. She loved all animals.
What do you do about missing someone who will never come back because they passed on? You live.
My sincere condolences to you. May the memories live forever.
http://www.thisisawar.com/GriefMurder.htm
i don't know how they died. but here is a good summary of what people go through when they lose a loved one.
you will always miss them. nothing can change that. acceptance is the way. i am very sad too. i miss my brother. he would have been 27 next month.and though it has been 3 years. i am still sad. everyone is different. read it though, please. it is good info.
I understand exactly how you feel. I think of my Mom several times a day - She's been gone for over 15 years. I STILL wish I could see her again!
In all the trials of life, death is probably the most difficult to recover from. I cannot tell you how to prevent the ache of not having them around, I can tell you how I eased it.
Whenever I am reminded of my Mom, I never push the thought away. I relive the memory because that is the only connection I have with her now.
I think of little things like her face, smile, clothing or hair and I feel good to know she was a great person AND my Mom. I speak to her with my thoughts - I tell her I love and miss her and I know wherever she is - she hears me.
You remember the memories. Those are what mattered in the first place.
I have being in that road, i know what you mean. I lost some one that was so special to me and i had hard time getting over it. I can tell you what help me. I start taking meditation class like Chi-Kung or know as Thai-Chi. I don't know if you are familiar with eastern medicine it is very helpful. The other thing is don't hold anything, if you feel like crying let it go. In time you will be fine.
You are asking a question as old as time immemorial. There is obviously no simple answer to this question because everyone"departs" in different ways.
There is nothing wrong with missing someone forever. You very might wind up missing more than one person who is dead for a very long time. Simply become a legacy of their spirit,a d live your life to the fullest, and joyfully, just as if they were here.
Nothing you can do can ever bring them back, so the sooner you accept that, the faster you will be able to live a totally fulfilled life, just like you would if they were walking right along side of you.
As a therapist told me once..Think about it once a day the put it in a little box and say that's enough till tomorrow..That helped me alot..My son died at birth.
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