how can I stop this horrible habbit of mine?
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i used to cut too. there's no one method that works for anyone. You can try what worked for me. (ok so i still cut.. but it's down to about once a month instead of5 times a day so...) I started limiting myself. So at first i said no matter what happened I'd only do it 3 times a day. then when i got that under control I narrowed it down to 2. When it got to one i couldnt handle it so I started looking for alternatives.. although rubber bands aren't the healthiest method, you could try doin rubber bands around your wrists. It really depends on what calms you down more.
For some people they get calm when they see the blood and for some it's simply the pain.. for others it's the scar afterward. for me it was both the pain and the scar.. so i started using like safety pins and stuff that wont be as deep as razors but would still hurt and still leave a mark. that helped me keep to my once a day limit and pretty soon i was able to cut it down to once a week. I don't know if i'll ever stop.. but talking to my friends about it helped. (Sounds cliche but... although they know it might not be enough.. you need to really talk to them and let them know why you do it. Then I bet they'll offer you so much support you'd be overwhelmed :)
P.s... some people who answer this may say 'just get counselling' or 'just try to stop thinking about it' but the truth is as much as they are trying to help.. they dont understand for all of us it's not that easy.
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You need counseling, seriously. Find yourself a therapist.
What exactly is cutting yourself accomplishing. Find something else to cut, maybe take up cooking!
go to therapy sweetie. find a professional to help you, the first step is to recognize that you have a problem and be willing to get professional help.
take care.
Put away what you use and start using self-control.
You can't do some magic thing that will stop you when you try, except use your mind.
Go to therapy that's your best bet on beating this.
need more info u cut what?
ok i have a friend who did just that ok.. so email me ok... but the bottom line is to forgive yourself no matter what it is ok!
Oh my. I saw an episode of Oprah (I know, I know!) once about young girls that do this. Since you sound like an intelligent person and know that you need help, seek counseling. This is a serious matter. I don't know your age, but tell your parents or some other adult you trust. Good luck.
Hun you need help you need medical help. There are underlying issues as to why people cut, drink, drug ect....get some therapy NOW...
get help from a doctor -- NOW!!
it's called self-injurious behavior, it's a form of depression and there is medicine and therapeutic techniques to help you! don't feel shameful about it because it is very common mostly among young adults, seek medical help (oh, did I say that already?)!
Put down the knife. PUT IT DOWN. That's right. Nice and easy now. DON'T LOOK AT THE KNIFE. That's it. Now - I SAID STOP LOOKING AT THE KNIFE!! - pick up the phone. Dial the number to a psychologist who can help you deal with this. And DON'T PICK UP THE KNIFE AGAIN!! EVER!
May God bless and keep you.
Cutting is not a habit, it is a self-injurious behavior recognized by the American Psychiatric Association as an impulse disorder. You need to speak with your doctor and get a referral for a mental health practitioner, preferably a psychiatrist. You're not crazy, but you do have a treatable compulsion that requires medical attention. Please speak to a doctor as soon as possible.
You can take two routes you can talk to a psychiatrist or you can call a national hotline which is set up for this very problem a special was on 60 minutes for the same thing so your not alone its plenty of help out here and they will be happy to talk with you I pray you will take this advice and I hope you are ok
see a psychiatrist asap
my friend used to cut but stooped about two weeks ago because i told her it was stupid and would ruin our friendship and she hasn't since then
i used to cut but then i stopped becuase it wasn't helping me so instead of cutting i took something hard and everytime i felt like cutting i took that thing and i cut on that instead it helped but what really stopped me was wanting to stop
Professional help is affordable, available, assessable and close at hand . You need to talk to someone in the profession that can help.
Have you told your parents?
I used to cut when I was younger and niave. If you're under the age of 16 you're more likely to start cutting because you're ignorant.
But if you really want to stop then tell your parents. That's what made me stop. I told my mom what I was doing and the look on her face just snapped me out of it... to see my mom so disappointed like that just crushed my heart.. and I'm sure your parents care enough for you to try and get you to stop. So if just telling them doesn't help you then I'm sure professional help will. There are some really good therapists out there.
And also, cutting is usually a sign of attention. I know you said that only 5 of your friends know about it, but asking a question like this is kind of a way to get attention as well. I mean, it's common sense to know that therapy will help a problem like yours.
Either way, good luck trying to get help and whatnot, and sorry if I'm not very sympathetic.
You need to realize that you are worthy of being healthy. Your body is the only one that your going to have throughout life, don't trifle with it. This is a mind over matter situation. I know it probably makes you feel alive, when you feel dead and empty inside, but trust me, lacerating yourself is instant gratification- you need to look at it in the long run... Imagine your wedding day, your husband to be looking down at your scars... Imagine little things like that, about your future. You don't have to keep cutting- the scars you have now, will be a constant reminder of how close to rock bottom you were. The scars never go away, but the urge to cut, will. Love yourself, know that you are worthy!
OK if your still at school go and see your school counsellor he/she should be able to give you some advice. if your not at school or don't have a school counsellor then try and see your GP. if you can not see your GP then try talking to a trusted aunty or uncle you really need to get help with this. please try and get help. Good luck.
i'd say you should check yourself into an in-patient thing, but they'd probably make you want to hang yourself...i've compulsively hurt myself in the past, i think due to stress that i couldnt handle...Definately find a therapist, find out whats causing you to do it, and work on fixing it... you should probably see a medical doctor to for your arm too.
Seriously you have to go to talk with a good therapist. Talk to your doctor about this and have him or her refer you to get help.You life depends on you doing something and getting help now.
I suggest in patient treatment if this has gone on for so long you should find yourself some help.
Does the act of cutting sort of push away unpleasant thoughts? Sort of bring you into the now and away from all the crap of the world? If this is the case, I first want to let you know that we all do things to create the same effect, but in different ways, tons of different ways.
May I suggest trying meditation? Next time you come close to the urge of wanting to cut yourself: Close your eyes, shut away everything that is going on around you and focus on nothing (or some people find it easier to focus on a candle flame) and as your thoughts arise (and they will without you wanting them to) just observe them, do not push them away or entertain them further. Let them come and when they leave again, focus on the nothing again. This will seem pointless at first and unhelpful...that is the mind's thoughts playing tricks with you, but realize that even this is just another thought. Do this for one minute at first...set a timer so you don't have to focus on how long you've been at it. Then, try to stay in this meditative state for a bit longer on the next time. Eventually your urges to cut will disappear.
I wish you the best of fortune with this and if you need any further help, drop me line.
Try and think of the reasons that you choose to do this. Whenever you get the urge to cut yourself replace it with a positve habit instead. It is very harmful to your body and will leave awful scars. Do your parents know about this. Even if you are a grown adult it might help to talk to people that you love about this situation. I think that it might be wise for you to go see a specialist. They might be able to come up with some better ideas than I could ever give out.
If you are embarrassed just remember that..... Admitting you have the problem is the first and hardest step. Good luck!
I am also a cutter on way to recovery. I still cut at times but not like I used to. You need to go see a councler that is the only way to go it because you have been doing it for so long. this is not something you can handle on your own. Please get some professional help. It is possible to stop, don't give up.
yeah i dont know whats gonna help you stop you just gotta get it in your head to NOT LET yourself do it when you get mad or sad. i stopped myself before for almost a whole month and i know i could again. could you try doing that??before you cut just put the razor or whatever down and think of how much you want to stop doing that. yeah ive been doin it for a while and i know how much you get it in your head that its the only way to get away from things. i wish i knew and could tell you how to completely stop.it seems like an incurable habit that not just anyone can help because not all people understand. my scars are getting deeper and deeper and it hurts once my cuts are healed. i cant even wear short sleeve shirts in public cause i dont want people to see all the scars. the scars will always be there and when you think of it, how much does it bother you?? you know that its getting out of hand, will you be able to stop yourself next time? i never had counseling but i think you should try it. maybe that will help. but what stops me is thinking of the scars. thinking of how i feel after i did it.(when i wish i didnt) how i know that nothing comes from it. just the feeling of wanting to stop. im getting all sad here and now i wish i really could help you whoever you are, and i wish you could help me. well just think about what i said and try your hardest not to let yourself do it. okay??
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