what does one do if one gets stuck on one emotion?


Question:
I have borderline perosnality disorder and was wondering how people deal with it .COULD SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?

Answers:
You should try to get some professional help. All of us on youqa.coms mean well, but we're amateurs. I suggest you call your local crisis hotline, and ask for a referral to an affordable counselor.

I'll share with you the Dale Carnegie technique for getting stuck on one emotion. He applied the principle to worry, but really it should work for any emotion. (By the way, you might try reading the book "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie - it's a classic that's helped millions of people)

People who invest in the stock market who don't want to lose a lot of money employ a very simple method: they place a "stop-loss" order on their stocks. That means that if the stock falls by a certain amount, say 5%, the broker automatically sells it, so the investor can never lose more than 5%.

What you should try to do is place a "stop-loss" order on your emotions. Ask yourself, "Just how much of my time is this emotion worth? Is it worth losing an hour of my time? Half an hour? Fifteen minutes?" Once you've decided, you say to yourself, "Okay, I've decided this emotion is worth losing 10 minutes of my time. I'll allow myself to feel this way for 10 minutes, and then I'll stop the loss." Then just watch the clock. You'll probably find yourself letting go of the emotion long before the 10 minutes are up, because you'll realize that if it's not worth 15 minutes, it's not worth 10, and if it's not worth 10, it's not worth 5, and if it's not worth 5, it's not worth even 1 minute.

It's all about stepping outside yourself and looking at the value of your time objectively. Hope that technique helps.

Other Answers:
Look on the Mayo Clinic under Disease and Conditions go to (P) and look it up that may be helpful. Get help and change your life. Everyone has issues I hope you get the help you need. Take long walks in a nice place. Remember, Just because you think it dosen't make it so. And just because they say it doesn't mean they know....
If you have been diagnosed with BPD, you may want to consider trying out a Dialectical Behavior Therapy program. This is a treatment program that was designed especially for people with BPD.

If you are feeling stuck in one emotion, you need to try to re-establish some balance. Here are a few things to try:

1. go for a walk
2. meditate
3. take a relaxing bath
4. listen to some music
5. make yourself a healthy meal

-Make a list of your good qualities
-Make a list of things you would like to do in the coming week, month, year
-Write a letter to yourself, as if you were trying to cheer up a friend, be positive!
-if you are feeling like hurting yourself or killing yourself, call your local crisis line to talk with a professional, If there is a crisis unit in your city, you may want to spend a few days in a supportive atmosphere (NOT as restricitve as a hospital) where you can get some help.
-if you are in immediate danger of harming yourself or others...call 911.


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