How can one suffering 18 yrs of depression ever expect to be happy? Meds, talking, friends/family dont help.?
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It's totally up to YOU whether or not you survive having Depression. YOU are the one in CONTROL not anyone else.
YOU have to be PRO-ACTIVE in your survival. Learn as much as you can on the subject. Consult your doctor. Make it a TEAM effort with your doctor. Do this for YOU!
Sleeping makes me clear headed during the day. It's the NIGHTS that get me going. Can't sleep worth anything. Toss & turn all night long.
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ohh i feel for you, hope all gets better for you. i am sorry i am not much help..
At eighteen I was the same way. I'm now 28 and married with a beautiful boy. I really think it is the age. It's tough, but keep taking your medicine, talk to your friends. Go out and do things, read books, the Bible. You'll get through it, good luck.
things to do-
1)excersise- it does help.
2)eat lots of raw fruits and vegies.
3)drink water
4)get lots of sun light
these two are also very important.
1)avoid additives/perservites in foods-
2)avoid processed foods-
I used to be the same way pretty much my whole life. They put me on meds too, but they put me on the wrong ones, so it made the situation worse. You should ask the doctor if something else might work. I definitely feel your pain, but things can look up. It's been about 3 years for me since I have been severely depressed and though I am still dealing with some issues and still depressed..life isn't so bad. It takes some work to feel better, but it's worth it. Good luck!
See this site for something you have never heard about that is causing your depression. See "depression" on this page. Is being fat (we are in an epidemic of obesity) a chemical imbalance or something that they are choosing? Neither really.
After reading this page makes sure to click on "Prescription for Life." It has info from top psycchologists that say it is better to focus on becoming happier than reducing mental problems.
You are a victim of a society with epidemic rates of depression. Depressed people buy drugs so the owners of it can support their kids. If all the depressed people got better, how would they support their kids. So it is better for them if you are depressed instead of happy.
http://phifoundation.org/heal.html
I came to this website looking for the same answer ..for about 1 year I am living like a plant or maybe worst.O dont go out,I am always feeling afraid of leaving my house and when I do it has to be at night.I lost my job and I am living on my savings.I cant even go out look for a job.I am sleeping only a few hours at nigh,I am irritated and sometimes I blow up with my wife without reason..I never went to a doctor and I never took any medicine.I had thoughts about suicide long time ago but I spent some time on a church and thank God at leat I dont think about it anymore.I am 26 years old and I am married for 5 years..with no kids..I just dont know to expect ..everything sounds bad and looks bad.Is very hard to live like that,I dont wanna do anything..
I am sorry I cant help you,I am just replying because I want to share my feelings and maybe get some help here.lets pray!I hope you get better my friend!
And if anyone have any tips to help us please post here.Thanks!
there no meds, or family and friends, or even the world can help you to be happy.thats all up to you .happieness is all inside of you.. you have to learn to make your self be happy. and learn to try to find joy out of small things..Life is a gift..accept it.
Life is an adventure..dare it.
Life is a mystery..unfold it.
LIfe is a game..play it.
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pray to God and read the Bible- ever hear of it?
anywho the more you read it the more you understand yourself and the way wickedness is examined
Listen.don't let anyone tell you it is in your head. I have been diagnosed as having Borderline Personality Disorder for a good three years or so now. I have been on medication and been through therapy. I can honestly say that the combination was one of the best things for me. Now, I have had my fair share of meds that did not work. Right now I am on a combination that works very well. If you really feel the need to, seek therapy - but the right type of therapy. There are several out there such as cognitive, or behavioral. Also remember if you do not like your therapist/psychologist you can switch. Many people do NOT understand any sort of mental condition, but there are many people who do and group support is good too. So, keep that chin up! I have been down a rough road and I fought this! So can you!
i was suffering from depression..i don't know where it comes from but i had it..and one day i just got in my car..cleared out my bank acct and drove across country not worrying bout a thing..been happy ever since..i don't care about anything..i just go where i want how i want..and now I'm back home..finished school and starting my new job.i don't stress..$hit happens.gonna die anyway..why waste time being depressed..if i use to think about suicide..well if I'm gonna kill myself..I'm gonna do it having fun..
life is so great..just chill out man..its is not that serious..
and I'm not rich.i had a hopti and 500 bucks.that's it..i survived..and that what its all about..surviving..
"I figure, if I could ask the wrld, then why not? Maybe there might be some help for me out there."
This is a good start. It's good that you take action and ask.
And please don't listen to ".depression is by choice, that Im making my self feel sad."
I am not sure if chemical imbalance causes your depression, did you ask your psychiatrist?
I think for depression, when one is taking medication, it's more effective, if you go see **counsellor at the same time. They can sometimes inspire you about different perspective and blind spots.
I know what you feel. I've never really been able to talk to someone, and thats the way I've felt this whole year since the beginnign of the fall. This isn't your fault. Personaly, I haven't had one day of my life where I really have been truly happy.
Take it from me who has dealt with so much, you are not doing this to yourself. I am really sorry for what is going on. The one thing you can do is talk to your friends, and if they wont listen, talk to your parents or even call a hotline. I don't care who, but talk to someone. Words is the best medicne out there, and you really need to express how you feel to someone else. Maybe go to a self-help group or a counciler that can show you where groups meet, or hotlines to call. I don't care who or what, you need to do something. I feel for you, and I am so sorry that this has to happen to you. If you want to e-mail me feel free.
I was on an antidepressant for 38 years before someone figured out I was bipolar. Perhaps you have the wrong diagnosis.
The other thing is you CAN change your brain chemistry. I did! But it takes a lot of work on your part. You have to choose to be happy. Sometimes that means faking it until it really happens.
First try going to bed at night and thinking about each and everything you have to be grateful for. It's hard to be depressed when you are grateful for your health, your sister, your brother, your parents, the place you live, the pet that makes you laugh, your car, the food you had to eat today.. It's OK if you fall asleep doing this. It puts your mind to work over night thinking about good things rather than bad things.
Second, find your faith. And ask for help and guidance during the day. Also give thanks for every thing that happens during your day as it happens. You don't have to do this out loud.
Make gratitude and faith priorities. And help other people. This isn't a quick fix. But it works. It's called cognitive restructuring.
I was actually able to get off of 2 of the 3 meds I was taking because of the exact same routine I explained above.
Best wishes!
At 18 years of age you have to accept that you are an outsider. Depression is all about friends and family. Depression is caused by false expectations of sex and love. You need to start small and learn more. Find someone who is also an outsider and learn from them. Cheers. get rid of the meds so you can think again.
There is an answer, Sparda. You need to keep looking & don't give up. U sound JUST like me!! I almost did give up. I needed HELP. tried 5 dif meds, and then.#6 the right one for me! - then they upped it, & added a 2nd, now OMG! 3 months of the RIGHT meds & RIGHT dosage, the clouds cleared out. Still on the meds, but wow, YEARS of depression, & now i can handle life. & it's actually GOOD!! still so hard to believe..like a splinter in my heart was removed, after all that time. Be Brave. Get more Doctors involved! something will work. Get on the phone 2MORROW!! .
I have been suffering from general anxiety and severe depression for more than 10 years now, I have seen a therapist for just over 5 years, been on max doses of different medications, been singled out at school for related reasons, so I do know exactly what you mean. Depression is not a choice, clinical depression is an imbalance of the chemicals in the brain. It runs in my family in different forms, and hits randomly at first. Now I have a husband who is manic depressive and then there is our son. He is too young to have anything show up yet, but it is highly likely because of both parents having depression problems that he will have some kind of problem with depression and I worry about that. But in the mean time I have not taken any depression medication for 3 years now, once I got pregnant with my son and now with trying to conceive again. I still am not up to par with where I should be because I think mine is not just chemical, it is my surroundings, my family and my friends. Within 5 years I lost 3 uncles, my father and my grandfather from the closer family in my day to day life. I am facing losing my grandmother and my husband's grandmother soon too. I won't be out of the woods anytime soon, but my love for my husband and son help me, knowing that my son is totally dependant on us is what makes me do what I have to and it keeps me busy enough to not think about these things as often as I had been.
You do still have a future that can be brighter, maybe you just haven't found the right combination of meds and psych help. Maybe you need more intense therapy of some kind, but there is a light at the end of your tunnel you just need to keep searching for it and asking for help anyway you can get it.
Best of luck to you and I hope you find the help you really need.
I was diagnosed with depression 30 years ago. It's part of my personality. There are lots of meds you can take. Ask tour doctor. And as hard as it is to get out of bed in the morning, I've found that that's the best thing for me. Get up, shower, face the day. I could stay in bed the rest of my life, but that would be pretty miserable. You might want to look for a therapy group. It's good to know that you're not alone.
I am in the same boat (why am i here at 2AM when i have a busy day in 5 hours)
I wake up sick to my stomach with bad dreams. So much more but you don't want to hear about my problems.
Sought medical help 7 or 8 years ago and what a bad scene. the Paxil that was prescribed made me more suicidal. Against doctors orders I quit cold turkey and didn't go back. I'm better off without them.
Exercise has been my salvation. endorphins from 1 to 2 hours running a day keeps me sane.
Was just thrown for a loop when dumped on New Years Day. Last 6 month have been bad again.
A friend recently gave me a book to read. very good. mindfullness based cognative therapy for depression. Haven't finished it yet, but the idea is to use meditation to clear ALL thoughts from your head so as to stop the depression from making you focus on the bad and break the cycle. Seems to give me some hope. Works much better than the drugs. Relief is instantaneous. I am learning to notice and be able to shift my mind at will. Also if you find a situation that triggers difficulty for you, change your life to avoid the triggers. That may be a major change but what do you have besides your life? Aren't you worth it?
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