what do i do to get back my crazy sexuality after being tarumatized by abortion and abusive relationship??


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Give yourself some time, you need to heal emotionally from both these experiences. Have you thought about some counselling?

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go see a psychiatrist!
Seek professional help. Now.
Time...it'll take time for you to trust again, and to feel comfortable being intimate with someone...your partner(s) will need to be patient with you...don't rush it...don't do anything you don't feel ready and comfortable doing...take care of you and your emotional health...you'll know when you are ready...
It is gong to be a very hard time to get over the stress of the pass. I would highly suggest going and getting counseling. If you do not want to go to a concealer go talk to your priest or pastor or someone that you trust. .
Realize that your mind has the power to control your universe and anything that surrounds you. You could go and get "professional help" but... if your mind set is not on overcoming your problems and becoming a spiritually stronger person then... sorry but you will never be good.

On the other hand, if you don't want to ask for help, but have a very strong mind set and will power you could overcome this by realizing that not everybody is the same:
ie. the one that beats you up gives a reason for the next one to be better and not do it. The abortion part... maybe you were not ready or something wasn't right, what better than avoid giving a sad childhood to an innocent kid.

i think you should not worry to much and try to become a little better everyday, and put it behind a little everyday, if it helps, you can even change city, a fresh new beginning, meet new people, don't tell them what happened, born again.

Just whatever you do... don't loose that inner child. We all need one.

Take Care and Good Luck!
There is hope. To find the way to start a new life. . . go to the link I've provided. The site will get you started. There is a link in the upper right of the site, to find help locally.

There is more to life than the everyday. . .
Lots and lots of time. Its been 13yrs since my abortion and I still cry around the same time every year when my baby would have been born.

About the sex, its gonna be a while so I would buy a vibrator if I were you. Hell, I'd buy a vibrator anyway! Ha.

No, really my greatest fear of sex after having the abortion was being put back in the same situation. I knew the moment after I woke up from surgery that I never wanted to have an abortion again. So, had I gotten pregnant again, the original would have been done in vain.

Just take it easy. You can build your self confidence in other areas. You don't need to have sex to feel loved, honey.
I feel that it is IMPERATIVE that you seek professional help. A Sexual Abuse Therapist is a good start. An abortion has to be dealt with on all levels as does an abusive relationship. In order to move forward and enjoy your life to the fullest degree, these issues must be talked through with a professional until you can lay them to rest. I have personal experience with both of your situations and have grown to be a much happier and healthier woman because of the fantastic help which I reseived from a councellor who specialized in this field. It didn't happen overnight though and it is not always pleasant having to revisit these times in your life, but it is the only way, in my opinion , to move forward. It will be then, also, that you will become comfortable once again with your own body and be able to explore your sexuality and intimate relationships to the fullest

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