Is codependency trying to take on others problems as your own?
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A rough cut description of codependency is the mistaken thought that you are somehow responsible for the thoughts, actions and outcomes of other people. I believe that everyone in some way is codependent. The problem occurs when the responsibilities of other people become your responsibilities and another person's outcomes, that are generally only negative outcomes also become your responsibility.
Codependency features blurred lines of boundary between what is me and what is you. Codependent people live half lives as they cater and take care of other people's responsibilities and feelings. The aggressor codependent places responsibility for their feelings and actions on others. For Example; "Don't make me hit you!", or "I got drunk because you made me mad!" or "I did this because you did that." In all cases the aggressor wants you to feel that their actions are not their responsibility and that you could have controlled the situation which is utter nonsense!
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A brief description: http://www.recoveryresources.org/codependency.html
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